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Friends forgotten birthday

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UserFriendly14 · 15/09/2019 23:48

So I’ve left it as late as possible but I’ve not had a single happy birthday message from any of my 5 close friends today. Two of these were texting in our group chat (of us three) about trivial things earlier this evening.

I’ve had a lovely day with the family and we’re away on holiday at the moment, so a text would have been enough.

AIBU to think it’s a bit shitty to not send a message? FWIW it’s a “big” birthday too.

OP posts:
wannabebetter · 15/09/2019 23:51

Aw sorry to hear that - for what it's worth Happy 'Big' Birthday!!! CakeGin

AnneLovesGilbert · 15/09/2019 23:53

Happy birthday! Glad you’ve had a nice day. Your friends suck Sad

GraceVanPelt · 15/09/2019 23:53

Happy birthday OP! CakeWineFlowers

YANBU, your friends have been pretty crappy there, but I think it's becoming increasingly common.

GreatBigNoise · 15/09/2019 23:58

There is still time. Just give them a reminder. Sometimes people forget and you have to remind them. It’s much easier to do that than to sit and stew about it all day.

By not saying anything you will have made it into a big issue. They will feel really bad when you do tell them? Maybe that’s what you want but it seems a bit pointless.

Happy Birthday BTW. ( with two mins to spare)

avamiah · 16/09/2019 00:00

Happy Birthday OP

I’m sorry to hear this but nowadays people and I’m not saying your friends are like this but you know they have a lot of things going on ,like jobs, paying bills , looking after kids.
I don’t know if your friends have kids, but schools have just started back and it can be stressful .

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UserFriendly14 · 16/09/2019 00:18

Thank you all Flowers

I completely appreciate that everyone has their own lives and I guess I just wanted to vent to avoid stewing further.

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BackforGood · 16/09/2019 00:30

I only know to send friends birthday wishes if they invite me to some sort of celebration for their birthday, or if it pops up when I am on facebook.
I don't expect cards (or texts, or other social media messages) from friends other than that.
If you need them, then you should have mentioned your birthday in the chat - even if it was - 'oh, we're off out for a birthday meal to night' or something.
People don't tend to have diary reminders or write everyone's birthday on their calendars like we might have done 25 years ago, anymore, as most people will generally find out from it coming up on social media.

LadyGAgain · 16/09/2019 00:36

YANBU. That sucks. Happy birthday! Glad you've had a lovely day!!

sleeveofstickers · 16/09/2019 00:38

Happy birthday! YANBU at all, how hard is it to send a message.

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