What to do about DS and phone?

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Hello Mumsnetters, can I ask for the benefit of your wisdom yet again?

DS 11 has my old iphone. I set up the screen time settings so he can’t download apps without asking first but he seems to have got around this somehow.

This morning I got his phone off him for one of my spot checks and he’d downloaded all sorts of weird dodgy apps. There was something called iPA4iOS, Chimera Jailbreak, Apps4iphone and Cydia something. There were a few others that I didn’t recognise as well. When the Chimera Jailbreak app was deleted it came up with a pop up that had a graphic of flames on, so not like your usual iphone pop up. DS also grabbed the phone and deleted something out of profiles, which is in the settings, general menu.

This was DS jailbreaking his iphone wasn’t it? The question now is what to do about it.

He’s had his phone removed and been grounded for a week twice before for looking at porn web sites. He came up with the usual excuses of ‘my friends told me to do it,; and ‘my friend borrowed my phone and must’ve looked at it,; so his phone history isn’t great. He’s also took off the glass screen protector that was on when I gave it to him, then dropped it and bust the screen. Also after I’d found out about the jailbreaking and he was in a strop DP walked into the living room and caught him snapping up one of my DVDs.

So, baring all this in mind, AIBU to remove the phone for good and just let him have the Nokia punishment phone for communication? Is this a bad enough offence, baring in mind previous offences, to just say he’s not having an iphone anymore and sell the thing?

Also, I’ve deleted all the dodgy stuff but will the phone be back to normal after a factory reset or is it compromised for good?

Help please oh women of Mumsnet.

Nokia of shame? I have a Nokia and don't feel ashamed!

Remove it from him. I'd yiu feel he needs to be able to call or text you provide a cheap old fashioned basic non-smart phone.
He has proved himself irresponsible and deceitful. He takes the consequences. No shouting or raised voices required form your side.

Plus at some point fairly soon you need to have a conversation with him about respecting women, respectful relationships and the issues around porn. And then ongoing conversations regularly thereafter Start to get him to identify sexism and disrespect of women in the world around him so he can see it.

I have had many, many conversations with him about porn and respect for women, both as issues that are linked and completely separately.

I have told him, very calmly, I’m not a shouty parent, that he will not be having his phone back until he has proven himself worthy of my trust, and not to expect it anytime remotely soon. I’ve told him that he needs to reflect on his behaviour, and if he sees no value in doing that then he is only serving to demonstrate his lack of maturity and accountability. He now has the Nokia of shame which will be his permanent phone for at least another year and more than likely far longer than that.