Teenage Son Won't Bring GF Home

[catmam]

My 17 year old son has been seeing a girl who is the year below him at school since before the summer. She lives 15 miles away so he gets the bus to her house and I collect him at night time. He's been doing this 2-3 times a week for July August and September. I've told him his friends are always welcome at our home but for some reason he won't invite her up. We live in the main town where there are shops, cinema, pizza restaurants, McDonald's, walk along the river etc. Where she lives there is nothing to do. He won't give me a reason as to why he hasn't/can't invite her up therefore I'm starting to get really paranoid that maybe he's embarrassed by me, his family, his home. Any advice welcome?

UPDATE: I'd laid off questioning him about GF or asking when we were going to meet her. Now he's asking to stay overnight at her house!!

Tell him you have to meet her first before you make a decision. I have kind of same problem dd is 16 will never let me see anyone she is meeting. Not even a friend. Said its embarrassing.
I told her to ask invite bf up 2m he said he would ask his mum so I know it won't happen

Thanks @mcmem05 I had been thinking the same. I'd really like to just say hello. He has spent so much time at her those, I'd like her feel the same way here.

It could be that he is embarrassed about himself. As a teenager I didn’t want my parents to meet any of my love interests because I felt embarassed about liking someone and awkward about being seen with them. They may have wanted me to hold hands or kiss and I would have rather died than have my parents see that. Baffling, but that’s awkward teenager logic.

If I was the girlfriend, at that age, I probably wouldn't want to be driven back to my house alone with my new boyfriends mum. Purely because I would have felt awkward and worried about making conversation, making a good impression etc.

Because he wants to shag her in peace at her house without his mother hearing?

Gee Whizz @mooncupblues Never thought of that 😆 He knows he has a choice if he wants to be become at dad at 17 or not. I know what I was doing at 17 😆

He's asking to stay at hers, do you really think you have any place to say no? I think saying you need to meet her first is dreadful. He's 17 he can move in with her if he wants. If he isn't ready or she is shy and doesn't want to meet that's up to them. He's not a baby. At 17 he certainly doesn't need permission to stay overnight at his girlfriends.