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To ask for advice re ex?

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silvachicken · 14/09/2019 21:28

My 6 year old son sees his father at least once a week, for variable amounts of time. A new partner has came on the scene and they now spend all the time at her house. My son came home today and told me he spent all his time downstairs watching tv in his own whilst dad and partner were upstairs. DS tried to go upstairs after a while as he was lonely and needed a drink and couldn’t reach the tap. Dad shouted don’t come up here, go away and they didn’t come down for a long time after. I can take a wild guess what they were up to.
I don’t know what to do. I think he will just deny it if I say anything and I don’t think is acceptable. I’m sad for my son and don’t know how to proceed.

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TriciaH87 · 14/09/2019 23:06

I would just message him saying ds told me he was on his own downstairs most of the time with you whilst you were busy upstairs. He was upset you shouted not to come up when he just wanted help to get a drink. If it happens again you will not be taking him.

KellyHall · 14/09/2019 23:08

I agree with pp.

Make sure you keep your message focussed on ds's comments, without letting your own thoughts/feelings/narrative in because that is sure to make your ex defensive.

silvachicken · 14/09/2019 23:16

Thanks for replies. I don’t have any feelings towards him at all anymore I just think this is scummy. Wanted some validation I suppose. He will deny it and call me a psycho. Not looking forward to it.

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