To feel like the worst mum

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I can't stop crying. Finished work and got the kids ready to take them to Tesco to get some tea. One year old got herself in the buggy and other toddler distracted me and completely forgot to strap her in and when I pushed the buggy out of the front door she fell out as there's a bit of a drop. She fell on her hands and knees and she didn't bang her head but she was so upset. Picked her up, have her a cuddle and let her and her brother choose something nice for pudding. They're now in bed and I've kept it together up until this point but now I have just had to have a big old cry because I just feel terrible.i. Want to run upstairs and hug her because I just feel so bad

Honestly, when your kids are older, you will look back and realise this really wasn’t that bad and not worth worrying about! Enjoy your chocolate and have a nice glass of

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Honestly don't worry about it. We've all had lapses of concentration and something's happened. She's okay and that's all that matters. Fire on one of your favourite films, have a bar of choc and get an early night. You'll be fine in the morning. Be good to yourself, your kids are lucky to have a mum who cares as much

Mine is 12 months old and was napping in the car seat in the living room (house renovations mean his nursery is out of action during the day). He was stirring so I went over and undid the seatbelt but then he turned his head and went straight back to sleep.

A few mins later I was in the garden hanging some washing and keeping an eye on him through the patio doors (I'd forgotten is undone the straps).

I looked round to find a head and shoulders staring at me - he'd woken up, managed to turn himself round and stand up in the car seat, and was smiling at me while balancing in the car seat, which was sitting on the couch.

My god!!! I felt awful for what could've happened if he'd lost his balance!! But he was fine. And I am now.

Have a vino and relax. Babies are hard but also very resilient! X

We have all done these things. You are still a great mum. Go easy on yourself. When mine were younger I strapped my 1 year old DC2 into seat in a Supermarket shopping trolley. We had just started shopping when 6 year old DC1 clinged onto the side and the whole trolley toppled over sideways. They were both fine and other shoppers were so kind, but I got the shock of my life and was bursting into tears for days after at how awful a mum I had been to let it happen. Take care and enjoy your chocolate 🍫.

Aww don't beat yourself up, these things have happened to us all. As we're all sharing, I'll tell you mine.....DS1 was 5 and having an almighty meltdown on the sofa (since diagnosed ASD) so I picked him up to try and move him to a safe space. As I picked him up and stepped back, I trod on a piece of lego which hurt like hell, lost my balance and fell but as I fell I still had hold of him and ended up smacking the back of his head on the floor. I still feel bad 4 years later!

Don't beat yourself up about it, accidents happen. One time I was taking ky toddlers for a walk and didn't realise how ridiculously big American stormdrains are under side walks. I went to cross the road and the small wheels of my double buggy flipped under and into the drain, pulling both kids half way into it! I wasn't strong enough ti flip the stroller back out either, it was horrible. If they hadn't been strapped in with 5 point harnesses they'd have fallen right down and It would probably have got them.

A big gug and a dessert and the baby won't remember anyway. Cup of tea and chocolate for momma.

Me me me @Littlepond 🙈

I once got my toddler ready for nursery, freezing winter, snowing, make sure he’s got hat and gloves and special teddy. Strap him into buggy. Get to nursery and I’ve forgotten to put shoes and socks on him
These things happen, don’t beat yourself up about it.

Oh bless you @helpmenamechange. More than once I forgot to strap DC in the buggy then bumped a kerb and tipped them out!

...could right go a Mint Aero now...

It happens to best of us :) xx

Be kind to yourself, they are so robust.
It's so easy for accidents to happen, she is happily snoozing away after lots of cuddles and a good dessert.

Your obviously a very caring mum to be so upset by this 💐💐💐💐

Op, my little one fell out of her buggy on the escalator. Right down to the bottom, luckily I caught her before it met solid ground. I've forgiven myself, even though I felt like dirt all day. Hope you forgive yourself too!

I forgot to strap a toddler into a buggy and they fell out face first when it wasn't my own child and I was babysitting. My blood ran cold. I can still remember the horror. The child, who is now 7, cannot

No judgment here. My husband dropped my daughter on her head while he was carrying her from a height. Accidents happen. Take it easy on yourself OP.

A bad Mum would not be feeling like you are now.

You are not a bad mum, things happen. I once shut the tip of my toddlers finger in the car door. Very luckily it was only a small graze beneath the nail. However it then got infected and she had to have antibiotics. I will always feel terrible. She also likes to remind me fairly often about it.

I used to be a nanny and locked one in the car. I had visions of her choking and dying. It was awful.
You're a great mum because you care.

Would it make you feel better if I told you I once shut the front door with my sons fingers still holding the door frame? I felt sick to my stomach and soooo bad.

Fingers didn't break, he was fine

Doesn't make you a bad mum x

It happens, shes fine, you are not a bad mum

Aw don't be so hard on your self.
I once forgot to strap my 7 month old in to the high chair and after they'd finished eating I took the tray off to clean and he fell straight on to his face and had a nose bleed. I felt terrible and couldn't stop crying. ( he is now six and perfectly fine!)

Dropped dd out of her car seat/carry chair as I hadn’t locked the handle. It was at home and she fell about a foot, face first onto carpet. We took her to A&E!

A friend did the same but off a table in a cafe. That made a noise.

I shut my son's head in the car door one morning......had to ring nursery and explain why he was going to be late! He's eighteen now, and about to start university - but he still likes to remind me of it

My husband just reminded me of another great parenting fail. We were in a macdonalds and we told the kids they could play in the play area after we washed their hands. We walk out of the restroom and 5 year old son is running ahead to get to the play area. Just ahead of us we see another child projectile vomit like something out of The Exorcist. Everything seemed to be slow motion - my hisband yelling "noooo!" As he realises we are all about to get some horrific puking bug, and I reach for my.son and manage to grab him by the hoodie so he doesn't make it to the other vomit zone... his forward mo.entum is so powerful that he swings round in an arc and wallops into the huge wooden trash bin with a huge thunk. Immediate tears and a goose egg lump on his forehead, while he sobs "but why,mommy? Why did you throw me at the trash? Why did you hurted me?" And all the other patrons are staring in horror like I deliberately punched him or something.

We didn't catch the bug though so worth it... kid got a transformer out of my guilt.

I forgot to steal my four year old into the car seat the other day in the hassle of also getting bags, baby and buggy into the sat. Luckily she told me jsut after we pulled away so I could stop and do it. Easily done.