In laws

[stopgaphere]

Any occassion is thwarted by MIL insisting on giving her opinion, regarrdless of who she might upset and I'm sick of it. I'm sick of the hen picking she does to my kids. DH has asked she stop, as my DS was in tears after a meal out where she continued to have a go at him.
It's beyond managable because she obvoiusly thinks she trumps everyone.
She has a go, at every oppurtunity, and it's all for minor stuff like my DD playing on her phone when my DH said she could. It's relentless.

AIBU in finding comfort imagining her getting hit by a bus!

Stop going out with her? Or look her square in the eye and say 'mil, shut up. They are my kids and they are fine. Leave them alone.'

Yeh. Bin her off.

Call time on your relationship with her.
And save your dc from being mentally abused.
Dh can see her alone.
Or not!!

If she doesn’t care about your feelings, or your son’s feelings, then surely you don’t have to worry too much about hers. Just tell her to stop when she’s needling the kids. If she doesn’t get the message, leave and go home, or tell her to leave if she’s at yours. Your children shouldn’t end up in tears because of their grandmother’s behaviour.

I have been nc with my dm for over 7 years. She bullied me and dc - even refused to use dd's names (born during a 10 year stint of nc and relapsed) as she preferred ones middle name and renamed the other!
Nc it stays forever!!

Tell your husband he can have his dear mum all to himself, because from this day forward, you will no longer be seeing her. Problem solved.

Why would you subject your dc to someone who is so critical and negative towards them they end up in tears?
What message does that give your dc about who is most important? How they should expect to be treated? How you will stand up for/support them?

Just because she’s “family” doesn’t give her the right to be a first class cowbag

I would sit her down with your DH and tell her in no uncertain terms that she is on probation. You are not going to tolerate her rudeness and unkindess any more. If she chooses to continue then she won’t see you and the DC any more

And mean it.

I have one of those. DH visits on his own now and I've seen her twice since Christmas. She attended my DM funeral recently and moaned to DH she was upset because she felt our adult DS was not paying her enough attention. DS was devastated at the loss of his nan but all she could think about was herself. MIL has no idea that it makes him want to distance himself even further from her.