When will it get easier?

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Currently struggling a bit. We have a just 2 year old, and a 3 month old. It’s hard bloody work to put it short. The days just feel like one long slog until the battle (with both) at bed time, meaning we usually don’t sit down till gone 9pm in the evening, & the kids are up through the night, & early in the morning.

Neither of them are bad kids, but combined there always seems to be someone crying. 3 month old doesn’t like being put down, ever. 2 year old wants your undivided attention too.

Please tell me it gets easier, soon!? Some days I just want to run away some where silent. This then makes me feel terrible on my kids, they’re so loved & I am trying my best. It all just feels a bit overwhelming at the moment.

Any wise words?
Please tell me it gets easier... soon?!

I feel the Monday dread to @Fairylightsandwine when DH goes back to work, I’m lucky though & have him back in the evenings. Poor you

It does get easier, I remember ringing my partner at work one day in tears asking him to come home because I couldn't cope (baby had silent reflux and wouldn't stop crying) and the eldest had just turned two.. Just remember to look after yourself and keep an eye for any signs of postnatal depression, go for a walk when your husband gets in to clear your head. And I would start bedtime earlier, my youngest is two next month and always went down at 7 once the night feeds stopped and the 3 y/o goes down at 8 (she has a double bed so half the time I fall asleep beside her). The best thing we ever done was buy the kids double beds and the next to me bed was great for the first 6 months.
Keep going girl I'm sure your doing a wonderful job xo

You are not alone and it does get easier. I have 4yrs and now 8months. I would say 2nd lot harder than 1st, but although a more needy baby, it's the fact you already have one to deal with that makes it hardest. Impossible to cut yourself in half, but guaranteed they will both need you at the same time. Around 5 months old I felt the weight had lifted for the first time with my second.
Organisation and routine is key. No matter how tired always prepare the night before and go to bed only once all cleared up etc. Cherish those sweet moments as soon enough they will be teenagers and that's a whole new ball game! Parenting is the hardest job you could ever do, but so rewarding too, and eventually one day we can get our own back when they are wiping our bums!

Urgh. Solidarity post. I have 21 month gap and life is pretty awful right now. Toddler ended up in hospital literally as the baby arrived so had an extremely stressful start, then a decent stretch as had an extremely sleepy newborn and a lovely nearly 2 year old.

Baby hit 12 weeks and it all went wrong. Toddler bedtime taking 2 hours, baby waking every hour, supposed to be on maternity leave but run a business and have had no choice but to work, officially going back to work ‘in the office’ this week, toddler teething, toddler broke a collarbone, baby won’t take a bottle, won’t be put down and won’t go to anybody but me or her dad.

Fml. I am right there with you.

I know how you feel, I have an 18 month old who is into everything, and a 6 month old who's teething non stop these days. I've been surviving by relishing the good days and on the bad days telling myself it's just a bad day not a bad life 💜

I promise it does!

The sweet spot is the Junior school years, then they start high school and puberty hits...and I'll stop right there.

Yes, it gets easier (till they become teenagers).

I think it gets easier .... I’ll let you know next week when my 18 year old leaves for uni . Honestly, parenting is very, very hard work.

As a parent of an 8 and 6 year old I can promise you it gets easier. Soon you will.be so glad you gave your oldest a friend. There is no friend like a sibling.

These days mine are like peas in a pod and play together all the time. They argue, yes, but they also adore each other. You have given your children the best gift, a sibling,.this difficult period passes quickly and then yoju have years of them being a pair ganging up on you.

It gets easier as soon as you start getting the sleep you need!
Everything is difficult when you have disturbed nights and lack sleep.
It is a slog and it’s difficult but you’ll have lots of fun and laughter too.
Try to get time to do the things you want. Listen to music you want, watch tv you like, see friends and family often, go for lots of walks and see interesting places.
It all helps.

It definitely gets easier.

I have two SN kids and one now a teenager. Those early days are intense and exhausting. Your ages are very high needs at the moment, it will get better fairly soon as the youngest gets a lot less needy and you also will get more of a routine.

My baby is nearly 16 & I would give anything to go back to those days when they took everything you said as gospel, didnt ask why & held your hand when you went out. Don't wish away the baby days, treasure them.