To assume everyone has their shit together!?

[Jess389]

I'm sure it's not just me who falls into this trap but a lot of the time I feel exhausted trying to juggle all the responsibilities and duties that come with motherhood, yet most others seem to do it with ease.

Anyone else feel like this?
Or what do you feel guilty about not doing?
What do you let slide so you keep all the other stuff going?
I'm just curious.

Personally I've let my fitness hit rock bottom so that the house, kids and job don't take a hit 😂

I feel I have a pretty good balance. I manage my own expectations, don't put too much pressure on myself, outsource what I can, but most importantly have a partner who shares the load. I don't feel overwhelmed because I'm not doing it all myself, though I appreciate not everyone has a partner. I think it's easy to see this stuff as physically tough, but it's actually about how we approach it mentally. We are not going to have a spotless house, with athletic bodies, achieving 110% all the time at work and school, so I don't feel like a failure for not doing so. If that makes sense!

I remember a very wise woman telling me not to compare my insides to other people's outsides. As I've made friends with dcs' friends' parents I've also realised we're all just winging it. The SAHMs, the WOHMs, the somewhere-in-betweeners. None of us have an actual clue.

I think I have me shit together, relatively. But the kids do still regularly break me. Does that mean I don’t have my shit together? Otherwise I’m happy, fit, rocking at my job, making good money, doing a house renovation that I’m totally loving doing, eating home cooked food every day, have an okay social life. It’s like I’ve my shit together overall but my shit falls to bits for moments every day when my whirlwind kids come a throw everything up in the air on me.

@Mammylamb I was commenting on the post about chlorinated chicken. I have no idea how it ended over here. I hadn't even read this thread. Mumsnet; can you tell us how this happened?

Nah, I just wing it. And Google lots. I don't have my shit together but most people I've spoken to about it are the same. My son is the priority so he gets looked after properly albeit probably watches a bit too much TV, but I try not to stress about keeping the house pristine all the time or cooking nutritious, organic meals or remembering every event. I do my best but sometimes a Yoga With Adriene video, or Mumsnet & chocolate/whisky is better for my soul than scrubbing the floors. I think it is all about finding balance and perhaps lowering certain expectations in order to cope with the everyday life. I'm a much nicer person when I'm not spending literally all of my waking hours working/cleaning/cooking/looking after my son. But then we only have visitors like twice a year so it doesn't really matter if the house is messy...

I do not have my shit together. A lot of people seem to think that I have my shit together but they are mistaken.

I am ok with chaos so emotionally feel ok, but I let my fitness and the housework slide massively. I just cannot motivate my self after my second child to exercise as im permemantly knackered. I m two stone overweight and don't want to be this shape forever.

My DH genuinely believes everyone else has their shit together and we are abnormal! He doesn't realise people tidy up and show the best of their house when they invite you to stay.

Something has to give. That old cliche ' you can't have it all' is true. The people who have or most together I know pay for it through stress as they are working hard behind the scenes even if they make it look easy.

I feel like I have my shit together in some ways. I only work one day a week, and only have one DD (2) which helps. House is tidy, we do lots of fun things and she doesn’t really watch any TV (we don’t have one so it’s not really a concious thing), but I am very overweight and don’t exercise (apart from out and about wit her and walking the dog). When she goes to bed I am so knackered the last thing on my mind is exercise or planning healthy meals. Really, really need to get my shit together in that department!

My home life and work life is fairly good, my fitness and social life is dog shit however. I rarely go out and struggle to stay in touch with anyone, even my family outside my DH and kids.

@Mumminmum. That’s funny! I was desperate to know where the chlorinated salad came into this!

See, the fitness is where I’m really falling down. Have been overweight a good part of my adult life. But was still able to walk miles and go to the gym etc. these days (especially around when I get a period) even going for a shower knackers me

*Mumminmum

@Mammylamb I was commenting on the post about chlorinated chicken. I have no idea how it ended over here. I hadn't even read this thread. Mumsnet; can you tell us how this happened?*

Maybe MNHQ do not have their shit together 😂😂