Slightly miffed that he didn't understand why it was an insult.

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Brief description. Child screaming in garden while playing. Grandad says to grandson stop screaming like a girl.
I said excuse me and said to child stop screaming loudly.
I said to him thats insulting to females. He didn't get it.
To be fair its a saying that is a pet hate of mine.
Im not annoyed at all its just am I over thinking this

I hate it too!

YANBU it's as damaging for boys as it is for girls.

Boys are quashed and stopped from displaying emotions early on by idiots like this.

And girls are made to seem less-than-ideal by the negative connotations of doing ANYTHING "like a girl"

I'm not really surprised he didn't understand why you said what you did.

I would also have been annoyed if I'd heard this.

I hate it, it’s sexist and rude
I was at an amateur football match recently and the ball came towards us at speed. 2 boys of about 11/12 yelled and their Dad said “ha ha you screamed like a girl then” I pointed out that my girl hadn’t screamed at all but had intercepted the ball before it hit them (she plays for her school team) and kicked it back onto the pitch. All 3 of them slunk off

YANBU.

He did ‘get it’, he just didn’t like being pulled up on his everyday sexism. If he’s still saying he didn’t get it, ask how he would feel if every time someone made fun of a behaviour or tried to stop a negative behaviour they said ‘stop throwing like ‘his name’, you scream like ‘his name’, stop behaving like ‘his name’ Etc.

It’s a saying that just rolls off the tongue. I’ve said it in the past (I am in my late forties). I don’t say it now as even I was so brainwashed, that I didn’t realise what the implications really were. Times are completely different now thank goodness and we have a long way to go but you were right to speak up. Thing is, old people can be set in their ways and he will probably keep saying it....

We are both the same ageish me 54 him 51. He is a great partner and is now in the kitchen cooking me dinner.
He is just not up on how things have moved on from past sayings.
He is definitely not racist or homophobic and this is first time in 2 years he's said something negative about the female race.
Even though he hadn't thought it through and its connotations. So now he's been educated

Are you overthinking it? Yes and no I think - it’s definitely not a phrase I would use, but I think seeing it as an ‘insult’ is still a relatively recent thing. Presumably Grandad is from an older generation - so I think, pick your battles. Depending on his age you’re not going to convert his thoughts, so it’s not really worth the effort to get annoyed about it. Your DS will learn from you, school etc that saying these things aren’t really appropriate anymore these days.

Agree OP and good for you for picking up on it. It's a saying that negatively impacts both boys and girls. It gives the message that girls are over emotional and sensitive (and that it's a bad thing) and then tells boys that it would be terrible to be a) a girl or b) show emotion

It was his grandson he was addressing. He is my partner. To be fare he's an all round good guy. So Im looking at it that he just didnt think about what it really means.