Aibu sickness/diarrhoea

[granadagirl]

So started being violently sick since about 8pm Thursday night.
Dp was out at his volunteer job
After second bout of throwing up I text him to say what was happening
This continued twice more, and I was getting scared. My son was in the house asking was I ok, why was it happening etc(just what you don’t need questions really)
I wanted dp to be here

I went to lay on bed, then diarrhoea starting!! And sick again.
Dp had come back now, not because of me because it had finished.
I was on the bathroom floor near toilet being sick, he didn’t even come straight upstairs carried on putting his things away

I have honestly never felt so ill and scared in all my life.
I suffer from GAD and think in the mist of this I had a panic attack
I went really hot and shaky

Also whilst this was going on, he gets in the shower and goes back down stairs on laptop/tv. Occasionally coming up whilst still in the bathroom asking did I want anything.

I couldn’t switch off most of the night in bed, my head was aching also.
Friday he’s acting like nothing happened, and said “it happened then, this is now”
I still had the diarrhoea!

He ask was it ok for him to go out on his pedal bike as he knew I wasn’t ok.
If I’d of said no, his face would of been touching his feet.

Feeling bit better after a nights sleep
I get up and I’m back to the diarrhoea!
He’s now gone out on his motorcycle

I’m so peed off with him, leaving me again for a 2 hr ride on a bloody bike.
I know it’s now only diarrhoea

Am I being unreasonable?
He knows how bad I suffer from anxiety and thoughts that it brings with it

@YeOldeTrout

Definitely B, and I speak as someone who actually has anxiety. It's not heartless.

I also, by the way, have a phobia about throwing up, which means I'm incredibly distressed by tummy bugs. One of my anxiety triggers is hearing that there is a bug going round.

But I still don't demand that my partner stay home with me if I have a bug and if he was home, I'd simply expect him to be sympathetic and ask me if I needed water or clean PJs or whatever.

I certainly wouldn't expect him to watch over me - I'd assume that he would be downstairs doing his own thing, and also that one of us would probably sleep in the spare room that night so I as the ill person had some space and he as the healthy one didn't have to sleep next to someone who was throwing up and riddled with germs. And two days after I certainly wouldn't expect him not to go out for a bike ride because I had diarrhoea.

I am assuming your son is quite little, in which case, you have a point. I would not like to be left responsible for a child when I'm suffering from a tummy bug

I’m a bit confused as to why you think it’s not a tummy bug and you were really ill? It sounds exactly like a tummy bug. HAve you not had this before?
It can be really really horrible. Nobody likes constantly throwing up and it can make you feel hot and shaky and weak, but there’s nothing anyone else can do.
If you genuinely thought you were seriously ill surely you would have called for medical help?
I think YABU here OP. Sorry you’ve had a rough time but I’m not sure what you expected for him.
He sounds like he was supportive - leaving you be but checking in on you.
Did you expect him to stay up all night with you?

I hope you feel better.

I don’t get what you want him to do, watch you? He probably doesn’t want to get sick.

Acting like you are in some real danger will actually probably just feed the anxiety. It's just D&V. His reactions were normal and helpful. If you're still not feeling great it's probably hard to think straight but you may start to see this for yourself once things settle down a little.

What did you want him to do OP, sit in the bathroom with you?

I don’t think OP is coming back!