To ask how you coped with going NC

[copperballoons]

Hi all,

My mum and I have always had a rocky relationship. She was my best friend growing up when I relied on her but since I've got older, had boyfriends etc so turns on me. Gives me silent treatment for months etc. Tries to sway my opinions. As a kid she never liked my friends. As an adult, she never liked my boyfriends. As a result, I don't now have many friends as an adult.

She started talking to me again when I was pregnant. Then when baby came she made every excuse under the sun to not see him. He's two now and she's probably met him about 10 times despite living 20 mins away. I go every weekend so we can see my dad and she goes out or says we can't come in and we have to go out instead.

We haven't spoken in months and now she's refusing to come to my wedding tomorrow.

I didn't want her to come to the wedding. I thought I'd be happy and now she's confirmed she's not going, I can't help but feel sad. This is it isn't it, our relationship is totally over?

She sounds horrid and not like a mother at all. Some woman are just cruel to their children. They feel they didn’t have a choice to have them and today they wouldn’t have them and society would be okay with that.

But most importantly huge congratulations for your wedding tomorrow and your own little family hat you know how you want to raise and love. Everyone at your wedding will be there because they want to be there and show you love. Enjoy the people that are there not the ones that aren’t.

And if you can rearrange the seating plan or out someone in her seat. Absolutely don’t leave an empty chair for her, don’t give her that power

I could have written your post OP.

It does get easier. I am NC with my mum, for over 10 years. I know the situation won’t ever change, and that NC is the right decision for me.

We got married by ourselves to deal with it and it was nice to be free of the drama

Thank you everyone.

I have a brother too but for some reason is only me who gets this treatment.

Thank you each for your wedding wishes!

You wouldn't believe half the abuse etc I've had from my mum and stepdad gone back to them 7 times over 14 years never again.they can rot in hell ! Big grieving on my part but I'm so happy now,lonely no family but happy .

I've been NC with my father since March. I feel so free and wish I had done it years ago.