So I need some advice, me and my partner have both our own children from previous relationships. He will have my son every other Saturday while I work and I will have the kids generally whenever he asks I've had them for weeks in the holidays when he works on standby for a week and they come to stay every weekend. Last week I finished work on the saturday and was really stressed as a very busy day when he came to pick me up, I asked to just let me chill in car and sort myself out of which the reply was something along the lines of sort yourself out no time to be like this long story short it got into a bigger heated discussion and the night was ruined. Moving on to the next weekend we weren't getting on amazingly anyway and he was due to work the whole weekend and my son was over at his dads. He arranged for the kids to come over and me look after them knowing that he could only end up seeing them for 10 minutes over the weekend I didn't have a problem with this, maybe to be asked would have been nice. So in the morning they are due to come I said to him do you mind if they get dropped over for 7 and your ex feed them dinner if you arent going to be home and me just grab an hour to sort myself out have a shower etc as I dont finish work until 5.45 then pick my son up from after school club....well it erupted massively and I am selfish. I work part time so I get time to myself all the time etc. Which anyone who is a mother knows that isnt the case. I was honest and stated I wanted them to have the best of me and not be a moody cow like I was the week before. He has now chosen to move out take all his belongings and not hear when I'm coming from. The question is am I being selfish and unkind? I'm driving myself crazy. Prior to this relationship I was in a 5 year domestically violent controlling relationship and we have spent the last 2 years in criminal and family court. Please help I need some kind of advice xx