Annoyed

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I'm at a party for a friends bday, it's a whole weekend thing.
Talking to someone who used to know me from school (I can't remember him)
He's with his wife/gf talking to me.Small talk about what we up to etc about the town we grew up in.
He says "do u not go out there"
I say "I don't go out"
He says "oh too good for you is it"
NO mate I meant I don't go out! (As in can't be bothered maybe go to local every now and then cos I'm getting on abit and I'm happy with that)
I'm annoyed!
Why presume something is too good for me?!
Felt like back in school where your
I feel like he just looked at me and thought yeah she's just someone who has nothing about her, just blonde.
Wanker

I know exactly what you mean, I don’t go out in the evening or drink anymore cos boozes makes me really poorly (a few drinks used to result In 3 days in bed and throwing up for hours) and I don’t feel like I need to go out at night getting older etc. when I say to people I don’t drink or go out in the evenings (I socialize during the day and lunches cod I enjoy that more) I get told I’m boring and the pressure to drink alcohol is tremendous and really pisses me off...,. I get asked all the time “why don’t you drink” folk seem to not accept “cos it makes me ill” as an acceptable reason.... think I might say I’m am a recovering alcoholic from now on

When he said why don’t you go out you should have replied “why are you a wanker”

Was it definitely not just banter/small talk?

I would have answered "no I'm too good for it".

If your going to bumb it to/mix with people from school, then you need to work on yourself. So you don't keep dealing with suppressed anger and hurt.

You could always just tell him to fuck off.

Yeah totally, normally would get annoyed but had a couple of drinks.
Apparently he's going today 🙌 and if he says anything else derogatory he will defo be told he's a wanker

Wow. He was probably just filling some empty talk space.

I don't really believe you don't remember him from school either. Everyone remembers most people from school.

You sound like bloody hard work and as a pp said, you're definitely suppressing something.

TBH "I don't go out" does come across as a bit snarky, unless you qualify it with an explanation.

PositiveVibez I don't remember everyone I went to school with either. I left school 42 years ago.

I’m guessing you now live in a more affluent area and he has a chip on his shoulder about it - hence the little ‘Oh, our home town not good enough for you?’ dig. He’s probably also twigged that you don’t remember him, so you’re damned twice over.

If this is the first time you’ve seen him since school, it’s not likely to be an ongoing issue.

Have you been out of school long?

I don't really believe you don't remember him from school either. Everyone remembers most people from school.

I thought that until an old school friend died a couple of years ago. I was baffled by the number of people posting ‘Don’t remember him but rip anyway’ on the tribute page.

@Nononoandno 😂😂😂

That just sounds like a harmless joke to me.

You sound like bloody hard work and as a pp said, you're definitely suppressing something.

What?! That’s a bit of an assumption to make!

I’d say he was embarrassed you didn’t remember him and was trying to be witty (but failed).

So he's said the town was too good for you? Meaning you weren't good enough. That is a very odd thing to say to someone

The other way round, I could get, especially if you've done better in life than he has, but the way it is phrased I would guess that he either hates you, or he has poor social skills and can't do small talk

He said oh, you too good for that are you? I realised I wrote that the wrong way...had had a few drinkies.
Don't know why he got that perception of me when I explained I don't go out out anymore as I'm old.
Ah well...far bigger problems in the world! Won't let it get to me, u can't have everyone like you, just found it rude!

I grew up in a place where I’m proud to call my hometown but I never visit. Unsure why but I just don’t get the chance and although I have fond memories of my hometown I love the place I live now. I don’t go out socialising or anything. What you said is exactly what I would say! Maybe he was just being light hearted?

Not everyone feels the need to go out socialising all the time particularly as we get older and more sensible!

Yeah probably! I was maybe taking it the wrong way cos I'd had a drink