AWOL

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Nc for this as I don’t want it to be linked to any of my other posts which will be outing.

Dp or rather p has fucked off out on the piss and gone awol again. Due to move house in a couple of weeks and we are skint and next week will be a tight week as he’s been off work unwell this week for 3 days but he’s out pissing it up having a great time being jack the lad. So fucked off with it all. I don’t mind him going out but when he goes awol it really does my head in. He’s meant to be working tomorrow but highly doubt he will be.

I do everything in the house and this is how he repays me. Was meant to be going for a nice meal tonight but his scumbag mates have taken priority once again and ‘I haven’t seen them for 20 years’ I don’t give a fuck. His work are currently testing employees for being under the influence of any substance at work. Aibu to hope he gets tested? I hope he fucking loses his job.

Feel like packing my stuff and moving out coz I’m just sick of it. He use to be really bad for going out and being so reckless but has calmed down loads and this is the second time in 6 months he’s gone out.

The house we are due to move into I would be able to afford on my own, just , but don’t see why I have to tie myself to a house and put myself in financial difficulty just for the sake of him.

I’ve locked the door but think I have been unreasonable to do this so will go and unlock it but also don’t want to be disturbed when. I eventually drop off to sleep.

Not sure what I’m hoping to gain from this post but it’s an outlet.

Fuck that op. You have every right to be annoyed.

Any dc? Why are you with this waste of space? I mean, I don’t care if my dh goes out, I’m always encouraging him to see mates, but if we were skint and he put pissing it up against the wall, I’d be bloody furious.

I’d be so angry in your position, OP. He’s not well enough to work but he’s well enough to go get pissed with his mates? Is he 12 years old? That’s child behavior - not well enough for school, but well enough to play.

I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this; sounds stressful as anything. Are you married, or have DC? If neither, then I would definitely consider why you’re with him as it sounds like there’s a lot more to this pattern and you’re reaching your breaking point. (Even with DC or married, I’d still give it a big think).

Good luck.

Yes one on the way nearly 30 weeks. Like I need to be chasing his arse when I’m at this stage in my life.

Tomorrow he will be full of apologies and it won’t happen again but he will be calling on MY SAVINGS to pay his bills as he won’t be able to afford him as he’s pissed his wage up. He can get fucked. I’m not giving him a dime. Can suffer just like he’s making our family suffer through his reckless actions.

The baby wasn’t planned for those who may say why did you chose to have a baby with this man. It wasn’t planned but my baby is wanted. He’s jepodising my child’s future as well as ours, does he not give a shit about putting a roof over his child head or is everything left up to me to sort out. Clearly have had mug on my head for a while.

Don’t know what to do tomorrow now but I’m two minds; do I stay in the house and give him the silent treatment and make him uneasy or do I go out and leave him to his hangover and maybe he will realise what he’s done. Probably won’t. Otherwise he wouldn’t do it. Boils down to no respect

Usually I’d be ringing and ringing him trying to find out where he is and talk him into coming home but I just can’t be bothered anymore. Let him stay out and have a great night with friends. Good job he’s not here because his presence would just irritate me

Yanbu OP but I would be furious and he would be out on his ear.

Don't bail him out, OP. You both have someone and something to plan and save for now, and it isn't him and his boozy nights out!

Is he ready to adult with you or not? One child is enough; you don't need two.

Just updated my council housing application hopefully they will house me sharpish being so far on. But will see.

I have been soft in the past and paid his bills and helped him with his debts but why should I now? He may lose his job tomorrow if he goes in pissed up which is just totally reckless in itself as he works with power tools.

What does he do for me? Fuck all that’s what. I wipe his arse, make sure food is in the fridge and cupboards - never ask him to come shopping because I think he works hard at times and think he can stay home and catch up on his footy programs. I ferry his kids from a to b (his from previous relationship) make sure he has clean work clothes, make his flaming sandwiches for work every day because if not he will just waste more money on food when I’ve gone shopping and bought the stuff he can’t be arsed to stick together! Clean the bastard house daily! Make his tea and clean up after! I’m up and down sorting things whilst he’s on his arse barking orders.

Writing it down and reading this back is a real eye opener. I am his mother. No wonder he acts like an infant! I’m enabling him to do this by bailing him out. Not from now on I tell you.

I’ve muted his notifications on WhatsApp now I don’t need the negativity and stress in my life at the min. Can’t quite figure out how to put him on do not disturb on the iPhone contacts though.

He’s not going to magically change from being an arsehole so the question is how long you’re going to keep dragging this manbaby along with you and bailing him out.
Get rid.