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Feeling homesick on first night in new house

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claret3189 · 13/09/2019 22:55

So first might in our new house and i feel homesick. Daft really as all my stuff is here. Think its just the change of surroundings and getting used to a new house. Anyone else felt the same?

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dollydaydream114 · 13/09/2019 23:09

Very normal and common. You've only been there one night, and moving house is very stressful and unsettling anyway - of course it's going to feel weird.

You will be fine eventually, but it can take a while for a house to feel like 'yours' so try not to worry too much about it.

Babushkacandle · 13/09/2019 23:11

When we moved into this house a few months back I didn’t sleep the first night, was gutted and just wanted to go home!
All ok now but it’s a strange sensation. Give it a few nights and once you’re all sorted it will start to feel like home.

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claret3189 · 13/09/2019 23:12

Tgank you i guess it wont feel right until i start putting our touch on things. I don't deal well with change lol

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Sunshine93 · 13/09/2019 23:14

Yes I felt like this. It takes a few days. You've gotta put your own stamp on it even if its just by setting up your furniture and putting a few pics up. Comfort yourself that at least it means you were happy in the old house. Give it a fortnight and you will be fine

ContraryToPopularBelief · 13/09/2019 23:16

I've been in my 'new' house for a year now. It is wonderful and I adore it. First night I felt sick and 'what on earth have we done?'

I think it's just a weird reaction to finally moving in.

Pinkbonbon · 13/09/2019 23:16

Totally normal to take a few weeks to get used to a place...put your own stamp on it...be sure it isn't haunted xD ...there you go, you'll be too busy thinking about that now to be homesick :p

Toffeecakes · 13/09/2019 23:39

I've been homesick each time I've moved, the worst time was when I moved out of my parents house and lived by myself for the first time - I cried a lot and went 'home' most evenings.

Fast forward about 15 years and DH and I moved into the house we're in now. I was homesick for a few weeks and then just sad about having to move for years. That circumstance was different though, it wasn't a choice.

Homesickness is natural, it's a typical reaction to change. It'll pass once you're confident with your surroundings.

RolyWatts · 13/09/2019 23:45

God yes. Cried for a week when I moved in here. Missed my house so much. Once you get your stuff out and the house fills with your smells it will pass. Lang may yer lum reek @claret3189.

PickAChew · 13/09/2019 23:48

The wtf have I done feeling is normal. You'll soon make it yours.

Biffsboys · 13/09/2019 23:49

It’s totally normal, I felt sad for a few months even though I loved my new house .

31RueCambon75001 · 13/09/2019 23:50

Normal! Give it a week!

Grandmi · 14/09/2019 00:03

You will be fine...enjoy making your new home a happy place 😊

MrsLEB · 14/09/2019 00:18

Normal

Rainbowknickers · 14/09/2019 00:31

I remember standing in my ‘new’ kitchen crying my eyes out and wailing I wanted to ‘go home’
I hated living in my old house but it’s what I’d known for 5 years-my son was born there and we moved cos we needed a bigger house
It’s normal-once you’ve unpacked and settled you’ll be grand

Pamplemousecat · 14/09/2019 07:04

I felt exactly the same!! Was shocked as thought I’d be jumping for joy at being in a place with new rooms but I just wanted my little old place back again! It’ll get better soon Flowers

Pamplemousecat · 14/09/2019 07:05
  • not new I meant bigger
Pepperama · 14/09/2019 07:25

Every time - and I've moved loads

Milkstick · 14/09/2019 07:57

I dream all the time that I've snuck back in to my old house to see what the new owners have done to it. I find it odd that that place no longer exists as it was in the time we had it. My kid asked to move back for a year. I still sometimes think I'm there when my eyes are closed in our bedroom now! It was full of problems and new owners were much better equipped to get on top of them, and it was a relief to move in to a house where prev owners hadn't let things slide, and yet...

This is just the beginning though. All the focus on the work during the move means you don't get a moment to think about it all, until your head hits the pillow. It's going to be grand. (We love this place now, we did as soon as we saw it - and it's got its own set of things that are awkward but it's home.)

Thankgoodness1 · 14/09/2019 08:11

It took me about 2 months to get used to my home and stop crying. I hated everything at first as it didn’t feel familiar or cosy but after that I was fine. Give yourself a break.

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claret3189 · 14/09/2019 17:07

Thanks everyone i guess cause we are doing work on the house too that also makes me feel uneasy as it really isnt homely right now

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