To feel nervous for new relationship dynamic

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1baumederose · 13/09/2019 17:49

NC for this, for reasons that will become obvious...

I’m currently 23 weeks pregnant with DC1, who was absolutely planned and tried for. DH and I are over the moon, however recently I’ve been feeling really nervous about the new dynamic a DC will bring to our marriage. Pathetically, I almost feel scared/nervous of the fact that DH will love the baby more than me...

I know this is ridiculous, because of course we will both love the baby more than each other- the parent-child love and bond is completely different to a husband-wife love and bond. Yet I can’t shake the feeling of suddenly being ‘second best’!! AIBU to feel like this? Did anyone else feel this way? I’d never admit this to anyone in real life, so I don’t know if this is somewhat normal.

I have longed for a baby for years, and I already love DC1 so much, so to be feeling like this is v confusing. Help!

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Whatsername7 · 13/09/2019 17:59

The baby will change the dynamic. It bought me and dh even closer. It fills my heart to see how much he loves our kids. It has solidified my marriage in many ways, and when the kids are both acting like twats we hide in the kitchen together drinking wine.

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 13/09/2019 18:03

It has solidified my marriage in many ways, and when the kids are both acting like twats we hide in the kitchen together drinking wine

That is life goals.

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1baumederose · 13/09/2019 18:31

Oh 7, that is so sweet. Definitely life goals. I can’t wait to be able to drink wine again

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Rachelover60 · 13/09/2019 19:02

Put this by for a later date:

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