AIBU to feel sad?

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I feel shit today. ILonely and weepy.

I'm a single parent to two amazing kids and I have nice house, good job.

However, I am SO lonely. I have a couple of friends but they are mostly busy with their husbands. I have one sibling and we are close but we only see each other once a month or so. My mum isn't interested in me or the kids. And thats it.

It seems like everyone else is always socialising, popping round to each other's house, going on holiday together. Most of the time it is just me and the kids. I can deal with it, but it breaks my heart to think the kids might grow up lonely and isolated and end up like me.

How often is normal to see other people socially? I want to change things for my kids. Can anyone offer any advice?

I think everyone feels like this sometimes. It really does look like other people lead these incredibly social lives but in reality, they're also dealing with loneliness, depression, dying relatives, children with learning difficulties, poor health, bad relationships...and you're just seeing or hearing about the highlights.

How old are your children OP?

Thanks for replying. They are 4 and 6 x

It seems like everyone else is always socialising, popping round to each other's house, going on holiday together.

No one you know must be on MN then

Do your kids ever have play dates? Are you naturally an introverted or is it a lack of time

I feel you, OP. DD1 has gone to school this week so I'm off work, doing the school runs. All the mums are lovely and polite but most seem to already have good friends at the school. I already know a couple of the mums but have still ended up feeling left out and a bit lonely. And weepy. I've got friends but nobody really close. It's tough. Not sure what to advise but I wanted you to know you're not alone

It's a funny age 4 and 6. Mine weren't having tonnes of playdates at that age either. Those came more from the ages of about 8 or so.

I feel like this today too. DH left three months ago and I sometimes feel like I'm doing ok, but not today for some reason. Literally crying as I type.

Sorry but I was just having a wee cry myself today, feeling lonely , I miss my mum . Hugs to us all.

Auntyfannybaws I'm so sorry about your Mum. What is it with today?

I find play dates awkward. I prefer to get involved in my kids sporting organisations. Even small tasks like food prepping in the canteen before games helps you meet new people quite easily. Everyone loves a good chat while doing a boring job.

Loneliness is horrible. I'm not lonely but I wouldn't say I have a super busy social life or am always popping here there and everywhere. But I know what you mean when it feels like everyone else has a big family and loads of friends.

Are your DC sporty? Could you get them signed up to some weekend sports clubs? My ds plays football and you usually end up watching from the side with other parents and having a chat...it can be quite social.

Thanks for the replies all. Some good suggestions there.

I just feel like I'm not important to anyone. No one seems interested in me and my kids and it breaks my heart.

Sorry to hear there are others feeling the same today.