AIBU putting umbrella up and having conversation next to the pool

[tetleyskat]

Pissed off and ready to tell these three miserable cows to f off but it's my husband's birthday today and he doesn't want any confrontation.
We're a young couple on our honeymoon in a nice little apartment complex, I'd say posh but not massively posh. About 25 people around the pool. We're sat about 2 sunloungers away from 3 middle aged women. Me and my husband are 24 and 27 (today!) . We were having a normal volume conversation this morning and two of the ladies got in the pool. conversation was around 10 minutes long.
2 hours later I was feeling the sun and asked my DH to put the shade up. He kept saying he didn't want to and I didn't know why so was getting a bit frustrated. The shade would have only been on me. I then said I'm going to go up to the room for ten minutes to get some relief from the sun. He then started gathering our stuff so I said no stay here I'll only be ten minutes. He then said he didn't want to sit there any more. When we got up to the room he told me that when they got in the pool and our conversation stopped they were saying "yeah they would shut up as soon as we got in the pool" and when I was asking to put the shade they were saying so he could hear "they are NOT putting that shade up" over and over.
I said to my DH we'll sit back where we were and if they say anything I'll politely (if I can manage that) tell them that if they wanted a private pool they should have booked a villa. He says no but in my eyes we've got another week here and don't want him to feel uncomfortable with these women muttering under their breath about us. WIBU to say something. Also have we BIU so far?

Sounds to me like you and your husband bickering was really annoying to be honest OP, why didn’t you just put the shade up yourself! They wanted to make a point and they have so I guess you’ll be more aware next time. If they carry on with the sniping then yes of course you say something but on this occasion I reckon you and your husband were more irritating than you think

Stop looking for people to fall out with.

Stop trying to be your husband’s mummy.

You’re on honeymoon. 🙄

We weren't bickering at all. I asked my husband to put the shade up because it was next to him. It's also making me uncomfortable so I'm not trying to be his "mummy"

Well news flash, you don’t need a cock to put a shade up! So is there a reason you couldn’t put the shade you wanted up??

Nobody on holiday wants to listen to you bickering about the shade 🤷🏻‍♀️

Also don't understand why you need your husband's permission to put up a shade, let alone that of 3 complete strangers. Just put it up! No need to strop off to your room either.

I think people are missing the point.
The women were rude and your husband is a bit of a sap.

Next time don't talk about putting the shade up, just do it.
People can be bitch, but they probably wouldn't have said anything if you had just put it up.

The shade was next to my husband, we weren't bickering when I said I was getting frustrated I wasn't shouting at him I just asked him why and he wasn't telling me. I would have put it up myself if my DH wasn't so adamant it wasn't going up. He didn't want it going up for some reason so I respected that I wasn't going to March round him and say FINE ILL DO IT. I wasn't on a tant going to the room I just wanted ten minutes out of the sun to get a drink. At no point did we argue, were quite a chill couple and don't raise our voices at each other often and certainly not in public, nothing against people who do, that's just the way we've worked. The conversation we were having was quiter than some of the people across the pool.
It's quite funny actually because we left to go grab some lunch and there's another couple on our loungers from before.... Shades up 😂

Next time, get down to the pool and not only put your sun parasol up, but everyone elses too. Better done first thing in the morning so that when every one else rocks up, they are already up!
You're on honeymoon. Enjoy and don't let these women have any more headspace. If you want the parasol up, put it up. Have a chat with your new husband.
Enjoy your break!

I am a bit bemused about these replies. I read it that the women had been rude about them having a normal conversation, on holiday, round the pool. This was before the whole shade incident and was what had prompted the husband to be a mug about the shade.

If you put up your shade would it have affected these women in anyway?

It's your husbands birthday and you're on honeymoon, get off Mumsnet and spend time with your new husband!