DM won't help so I can meet my nephew

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Nephew was born yesterday morning and Dsis has had to stay in due to some complications. She will be in hospital tomorrow still too. DM was there at the birth and has gone back up the hospital with DF a few times since. I'm a single parent and my DS has been ill with a temper so obviously I don't want him around a new born. I've asked DM if she could watch my DS for a hour or two tomorrow daytime so I can meet nephew. She's said her and DF are going up there day time to see them. So bring DS along with me. I don't want to do this because 1. DS has been really poorly and I don't want to drag him back up the hospital 2. I won't get much time with nephew as it's going to be hard for my parents to occupy DS in a hospital. AIBU to think my parents could help for 1 or 2 hours while I finally meeting my nephew and they can go up after? Even non family members have met him and I really want to see him.

If its a contagious illness shouldn't you keep away for a few days? And if your parents are helping your sister then they'll also need to avoid illness.

If it is contagious you should probably avoid seeing the baby until it's certain you aren't about to come down with it

Yabu sorry but if your ds has been that ill you shouldn't be around dn as you could be carrying your dcs bug.
Also it's only a couple of days

He was born yesterday morning so it's hardly 'finally' getting to meet him, a tad dramatic. Just visit when your ds is feeling better and not contagious.

If your DS has been ill you shouldn't be going until it's clear you've not got it.

Your parents are being there for your sister. Why should they risk getting ill by looking after your DS?

FaceTime and wait til they're home.

My parents have been round my DS too. He's just had a cough which has flared his asthma badly so needed inhalers in hospital last night

I agree with others you shouldn't visit until you are clear of catching any infection, and if I were your parents I would definitely be avoiding contact with anyone ill at this time.

Honestly, there's plenty of time to meet your nephew when you're all well. I'd pop your sister a message and head on by when they're home with some edible goodies.

If you're harbouring the bug your DS has, you'll feel pretty awful if your nephew catches anything.

It would be nice of them to help but unfortunately you can't make them so you will have to just accept it and meet the baby when your DS is better.

If your sis has had complications and is still in, she might want your parents around much of the time to help her out - it's unlikely the nurses are going to be able to help much, as we all know from the threads on here about being in hospital. I expect your Mum is worried about leaving her even for a couple of hours. Surely she'll be out soon and you can see him then (and your sis, who you don't mention wanting to see?!)

Is there no one else you could leave him with? If not you'll just have to wait, its only been 36 hours.

Finally meet him? He was only born yesterday

Tbh, they are more of a priority to be there than you at this stage. Your sister may want her parents around. You've all the time in the world to meet him. And see and support her too I hope?

YABU - if your sister is in with complications the last things she would want is loads of visitors. Wait until she gets home and your son is better. Also the baby won't know who the hell you are. The baby doesn't even know he isn't part of your sister yet.

Are children allowed to visit? When I recently gave birth and had to stay in a few days only children over the age of 12 unless a sibling to the baby were allowed to visit.

But I do think YABU. Just meet him when he is allowed home. It's your parents new grandchild so they obviously want to be visiting him

I get you’re excited but baby comes first

Stay home until she’s out of hospital

I think people are being really unfair here.

My DSIS is pregnant and if she had complications in birth I'd want to go and see her and the baby ASAP, and I'd really begrudge my parents not helping for an hour so I could do so.

Sorry OP, I don't know what to suggest but I'd be making it clear to my parents that I was upset they won't help.

You'll see your nephew soon enough so please don't fret about it.

He was only born yesterday. Why not wait until she is at home so you can have a proper visit, not just being perched round a bed.

why not just explain your concerns to your parents and ask if they can look after your DS after visiting your sister?

My DSIS is pregnant and if she had complications in birth I'd want to go and see her and the baby ASAP

• That’s you, all the OP has said is nephew, my nephew, other people who aren’t family have met nephew, I won’t get much time with nephew, nephew.

I don’t think supporting her sister is top of her list. Unless her name is “My nephew”.

Your nephew is oblivious as to whether you meet him or not, but if he gets a cough, it will make his early weeks very tough. Text your sister and ask if there is anything you can do, any shopping, whatever, tell her you can’t wait to see her and nephew when DS is better and she is ready. I hope she recovers soon.

This does seem to be more about you want, with no focus on what your sister needs. I would send your sister a message saying that you are thinking of her and ask what support she needs.

Please don’t go near a ward fall of babies when you may be carrying the bug that is giving your son a cough and temperate.

Much better to wait a few days than risk making a newborn potentially seriously ill

Sorry but unless you are specifically invited then anyone outside the immediate family should wait until they are home. I assume your mum and dad were invited to help out....