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PoppingOneOutIn2020 · 12/09/2019 19:19

I know I am.. ish. I just want to post here as I'm to embarrassed to cry to anyone else.

For context, when I was 17 I took out a loan and then another loan then a credit card and massively buggered up my life by not making payments on time, all the time. So it's all my own doing and I should have known better.

Now my credit rating is still sooooo poor.
I've moved our with DP. We pay a mortgage but again this is in his name as my credit was too poor for a mortgage. But I pay half of everything to him.
I have a really good job that should eat well but I live super rurually and the wages here are rubbish. But I'm still doing ok.

I'm working my way through my shite ton of debt.

But now I've spotted a car that gave me a sick excited feeling. I loved it, but I know it's something I cant do. Sure, maybe in 20 years. I have a baby on the way so once my debt is paid off I'll be then paying for my child so I wont have much to my name then either.
I've wanted this car for months and months and months, when I found out I was pregnant I put my dream car to bed in the back of my mind as it's now unrealistic and my priorities have changed.

But its started creeping up in my head again and i just feel really sad that I cant get one.
It sounds silly but all of my friends have quite nice decent cars or brand new cars, and I feel abit of an odd one our from them all when we meet up (all live fair distances from eachother as rural) and they all get out of their lovely cars.

It's such a materialistic thing to get upset about but I cant help it. I have almost everything I want, a roof over my head, a good career and what is soon to be a family of my own. I'm happy with that and I wish I wouldnt think the way I do about something so disposable. :(

Why am I so silly?

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bridgetreilly · 12/09/2019 19:22

Stop thinking about it.

Have a strategy: when you find yourself thinking about it, say to yourself how excited you are about the baby and start thinking about that instead. At first you have to do this consciously, but soon you will find you have forgotten about the car.

flyingspaghettimonster · 12/09/2019 20:20

When your baby comes you will want any spare money to buy cute things for him or her.

Before my first child I had just put 100 pounds down on the biggest doll house I ever saw... it was so grand and I was so excited to decorate it. Then I had to just lose the deposit because I couldn't justif paying it off and owning it when a baby would require my fun money. Now my youngest is 10 I again find myself hankering after a dollshouse, and I will wait till they leave home and I can afford it without using funds they would need more.

Adulting sucks and we can't always have what we want. A functioning car is better than many folks have. Distract yourself.

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