Sad about my mum ....

[AnonAgainToday]

We've fallen out (she used to favour my brother, now she clearly favours his son over my children and I'm not having history repeat. It's one thing to criticize me, another thing to criticize my gorgeous, lovely, innocent, smiley children).

Anyway, I'd love her to phone me. Say sorry. Or not even say sorry, just be the first to make the move to show she wants me. Im 40. It's ALWAYS been me that has to go grovelling back to her after disagreements. Always me who has to phone. Always me that insists on gaining her love and approval. I've decided I'm not doing it this time, but I think she'll be fine with that and use it as an excuse to moan about me (my daughter never bothers with me...blah blah).

So ... Is this it? Relationship with my mother over? I'm sad about that.

Even if the relationship with your mother is over, the relationship with yourself has begun. The new relationship where you value yourself enough to not give into her shit anymore, to not grovel, to not make the first move in reconciling things. You've done amazingly by taking this stand and not crawling back and you should be incredibly proud of yourself for that x

I dont speak to my dad anymore after I was attacked and he literally blamed me and was so unhelpful in the situation asking me to move my car at 9am the next day (something to do with the attack)

This was in June.

After he asked me for a favour which I refused to do. Basically asked me to get him some work supplies as I can get them cheap but I told him I can but at the normal rate and I wont be doing him any favours anymore due to how he acted when I asked for a favour.

He then made it about money without realising it was about how he behaves..I'm constantly doing favours for him but when I asked for one it's a big issue.

Rather not talk to him hes so negative about everything.

Very sorry that your mum has let you down so badly over so many years.

Head over to the Stately Homes threads (relationships board) for knowledgeable posters, reading recommendations and support.

I would be scared to contact my absent relatives. It has been a struggle for years. I felt I was always compared badly to the other grandmother. Lately, they have been favouring the absent father. I don't feel I want to continue to struggle to be what I am and that is a Grandmother. They have taken on board the lies of a known liar without thinking what is likely to be the truth.
I am a grandmother, I am not a nursery/childminding service, I am not their domestic servant or their money lender. I was told that I was to mind DGC but they could not be bothered to talk to me.
When my life went to hell I did not get a comforting hand on my arm or an encouraging phrase. I got dictated at.
I love my DC and DGC. I wish things were different. I wish they could have shown just a little kindness at the worst time of my life. I miss what I thought I would have in DC and DGC.
I hope you find a way through your situation. If you were my relative I would be in tears of delight if you came to my door. I hope your relatives would be the same