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To be a bit annoyed at my friend?

51 replies

sallyhoooo · 12/09/2019 13:10

My friend said if I see a particular item whilst out shopping would I pick it up for her and she would give me the money.
The item was £25 so not a massive amount but still.
Anyway told her I managed to find it and she said great and she would collect it one day in the week.
Now it's two weeks later and she still hasn't been.
Now bare in mind she lives 5 mins walk away and goes to the corner shop (literally 90 seconds walk away ) daily ..yet can't even pop in.
She doesn't work,hasn't got kids,and isn't rushed off her feet.
I text her every few days and ask if she wants to pop for it and have a cuppa and every time she says
"Oh god yeah deffo in a few days il be round"
Wish I never bothered now.

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messolini9 · 12/09/2019 14:03

Tell her you're going to return the item.

Personally I wouldn't, as it just allows the OPs friend to restart the clock on the whole saga again.

No it doesn't. OP simply refuses to recognise the clock, any further demands on her, or engagement in any future sagas.

ellzebellze · 12/09/2019 14:04

What is it?

neveradullmoment99 · 12/09/2019 14:06

I would message and say if you haven't picked it up unfortunately you will need to return it. That's it. End of story.

neveradullmoment99 · 12/09/2019 14:06

Give a date. Move on.

neveradullmoment99 · 12/09/2019 14:07

Just say that you need to return it by this day or you wont get your money back. I don't see a big deal.

Piffle11 · 12/09/2019 14:07

I would ring her and ask her if she still wants it: if yes, then tell her you want the money by x date or you will have to return it. She doesn't seem bothered about the fact that you're £25 down. And don't do any more favours that involve you shelling out and waiting for her to pay you back.

neveradullmoment99 · 12/09/2019 14:07

Sounds like she is fobbing you off as she doesn't have the cash to give you.

HollowTalk · 12/09/2019 14:10

I would take it round to her house - tell her that you're coming around and need the money.

Derbee · 12/09/2019 14:10

Ask her if she wants it, as you’ll need to take it back before the refund period is up. Then take it back to the shop if she doesn’t sort it within a day or so

Villaneller · 12/09/2019 14:12

I'd just say ' hey, just wondering if you'd mind putting the money for that item in my account? I've got xxx to pay for at the weekend. Can pop it round to you next week if you like? '

This a) keeps it friendly b)gives her a deadline and c) reduces the chance of her picking up the item and conveniently not having the cash on her.

crosspelican · 12/09/2019 14:13

I wouldn't take it around to her. It sounds like she can't afford it any more and if you actually bring it to her she'll be stuck because she won't want to admit it, so she'll have to take it, but she won't be able to pay you for it, and then you can't return it.

Just text her and say "No problem - I'm going by John Lewis tomorrow & will return it. Ping me tonight if you still want it."

Villaneller · 12/09/2019 14:14

If she comes up with an excuse for not having the money then you can say that you'll return it as you need the money soon.

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 12/09/2019 14:15

As above really

ReanimatedSGB · 12/09/2019 14:23

Is it something unusual that might never be on offer again, or something? If it's a bog-standard item then defiitely message her to say that she's got until the end of the week to collect it and pay for it or you will be returning it to the shop. If she's a good mate you could maybe say, if you don't have the money, don''t worry, I'll get a refund and you can get one another time.

TheClitterati · 12/09/2019 14:26

quick take it back before the refund window runs out.

Beautiful3 · 12/09/2019 14:29

This happened to me back when I was young teenager. My cousin asked me to order £16 worth of stuff from Avon. I did and used my own money. I kept asking when she was going to collect it. After a month I returned it all, and got my money back. The Avon rep was my aunty who is lovely. Six months later she dropped in unannounced and asked where it was?!?! The next time your friend asks you to buy some thing if you see it? Pretend to never see it!!!

BumbleBeee69 · 12/09/2019 14:39

Take it back.. and text her that you have done so. Flowers

MouseInATelescope · 12/09/2019 14:44

£25 IS a lot of money to me right now. I couldn't afford to be doing that for someone.

What is the item? If it's good then keep it for yourself. If you can't return it (try) Ebay it.

Don't do her anymore £££ favours obviously! Smile

Branleuse · 12/09/2019 14:47

i think take it back. Or tell her to come get it today or youre taking it back while you still can

RavenLG · 12/09/2019 14:59

I would text her and say :
"Hey CF friend. I need that £25 back from item I bought for you, so if you can't come collect with money by xxx date I will return to the shop for a refund."
No asking, or compromising. It's either come and get it with money or it's going back.

Span1elsRock · 12/09/2019 15:12

Take it back. She can't want it that badly. And if she asks, say "Sorry I couldn't afford to be out of pocket that long".

Rachelover60 · 12/09/2019 15:25

She will come to collect, probably embarrassed because waiting for pay day to have the cash. Just sit on it for a bit longer.

KUGA · 12/09/2019 15:25

Agree with Parky04.
If you leave it too late your stuck with it.
And tell her your taking it back she may just get her arse into gear.

Cheeseandwin5 · 12/09/2019 15:27

I know people are saying take it back for a refund, but I am assume that is only viable, should you still be able to take it back, if the shop isn't too far out of your way and if you were planning to go there anyway.
I would tell her straight, I think she has returned your kindness with, at best scattiness and at worse rudeness. I think you may need to be blunt and tell her you will be popping round with the item and to collect the cash.

Pinkyyy · 12/09/2019 15:28

Just take it to her house.

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