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First week of preschool

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Joey88 · 11/09/2019 20:44

Sorry this may be long, posting here for traffic really. So aibu for being annoyed at this pre school?

My son is 3 and a half and he started nursery school on monday. This is settling in week so he was their an hour on monday, 2 hours yesterday and and 2 and a half hours today. My husband has been doing drop offs and pick ups this week but im making a point to do pick up tomorrow as im so concerned about what my husband has told me this evening.

For context, the nursery teacher spoke to my husband yesterday at pickup and said our son would not sit on the carpet for story time and could be practice this at home. They would give us laminated cue cards that they use in school to help. I wasnt too concerned as this is his first week, everything is new and exciting and these are skills he needs to learn.

Today at pick up the nursery teacher pulled my hubby aside at pickup and gave the cue cards for usevat home. She told him that once again our soon would not sit on the carpet for story time or stand in line to go outside and if this does not improve they will need to look at reducing his hours as by next week they will have a full class of 21 kids and have to think of the other kids, cant have my son being disruptive. My husband was shocked and didnt say much at the time.

Im going in tomorrow to speak to them myself but i feel as though he isnt being given a chance to settle in and learn the ropes and what is expected of him. Im under no illusions that my son is a saint, he is very strong willed and would rather be active than sitting down quietly but surely this isnt a good enough reason to exclude him?

I feel bad for my son being labelled disruptive after only a few hours. We have been lucky enough to not have needed to use daycare or a childminder so he has never needed to follow a super strict routine so i was aware we would need to work with the school to help him learn these social skills but i never thought he would have his hours reduced, i feel this is excluding him and will have such a negative impact on him. Hes still only little in my opinion. He did sit on the carpet this evening with me and listen to a story so he can do it.

Thanks for reading if you made it this far, i didnt want to drip feed. Im prepared to be told this is the policy for all pre schools, but i would greztly appreciate other mums and dads opinions on this xx

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PodgeBod · 11/09/2019 20:55

I would pull him and find a new preschool, absolutely

Thehop · 11/09/2019 21:00

I don’t like your pre school, can you change?

All legs must fit square holes is a method of schooling that goes against everything we know about this age group.

Thehop · 11/09/2019 21:01

Sorry pegs

Joey88 · 14/09/2019 14:49

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Since2016 · 14/09/2019 14:53

Are you saying that your son has never been in any sort of day care setting and is now going into a school nursery full time?

I’m not surprised he’s not settling tbh. Did you not expect this? You may need to reassess this and look at a playgroup for more limited hours first before a preschool which is more formal.

Snazzygoldfish · 14/09/2019 14:54

That sounds a really really bad preschool. I'd pull him out and find another, they don't want children there they want robots!

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