To not be doing this chore right now?

[IsItNotChristmasYet]

I’ve just got home from a 9 hour shift from hell, the type that has me reevaluating my employment there. DP knows this, he’s alreafy home. I tell him I just want to get into bed and I’ll sort myself food later (no DCs).

2 minutes in bed and he’s calling me to help empty the cat litter. I asked why he needs help and he says he has a sore back. I’ve told him to leave it andill do it soon but apparently that’s not good enough. I’m still only 20 minutes in the house since I got home. He’s gone off in a huff.

AIBU to not Change it when he asked? He’s been home 2 hours.

YANBU

Is he trying to sabotage you going to bed early? Is he controlling in any way?

Well he sounds like a Prince.

He’s usually lovely. He has OCD which causes us to clash when he needs me to do something that I don’t do right away as things not getting done puts his anxiety through the roof.

But I think he should put up and do the job or bloody well wait

The trouble is this.

You won't get any peace until it's done, will you - so you might as well get out of bed, do it, then relax.

And discuss his behaviour tomorrow, making sure he knows how thoroughly pissed off you are about it.