to wonder why he lies about this

[Liarpantsonfire567]

Sorry everyone, a masterbating thread ha

So my partner has been off work today and it’s always been a long running joke to ask the other if they have been sat on the sofa ‘playing the guitar’ not in a serious way but just because it makes us laugh and it’s an on going joke.

So my dp has been refusing having sex with me probably because I’m 7 month pregnant but he’s always been a bit shy around this subject. So I came home today and asked the famous question and he laughed and said no no he hasn’t and he can’t even get an erection these days due to medication he’s on.

We have been having issues with one of our suppliers for broadband and he passed me his phone with screenshots of two bills on and I tapped the phone so it opened all apps so I could get back onto the web page where we was looking at bills and I saw he had been watching porn via another platform. He doesn’t know I have seen.

I’m not bothered that he has been watching porn at all because I do it myself. We all have needs. I’m just annoyed that he’s lied and fabricated a tale that he can’t get erections and he ‘doesn’t do that’. Aibu to be not annoyed, but baffled why he can’t just say yes I have. Because I’m honest with him when he asks me lol I am a little hurt it does make me feel a tad inadequate but overall me and dp have a great relationship and really are the best of friends.

Sorry everyone probably a weird post and not one people want to read around tea time haha

Well if he has a hang up about having sex with you because you're heavily pregnant, then he probably doesn't want to make you feel worse by admitting he's been masturbating to porn. Perhaps he was trying to spare your feelings?

Perhaps he cant get an erection and he wondered if porn might make Mr Floppy perk up a bit? just a thought

Just call him on it. If he owns it, great. If he gets huffy and cross there's probably more to it and it's then up to you if you wish to dig deeper. (Personally I hate being patronised and lied to, so I'd kick up a fuss.)

I’d say it’s more embarrassing for a man to admit he can’t get an erection than it is to admit he’s been watching porn. I’d be inclined to believe he was telling the truth, but perhaps had been watching porn to see if it helped.

I did think about the feeling sparing. I probably won’t say anything as I don’t want to embarrass him but it’s just annoying being lied to when it’s really not a massive thing to lie about.

He clearly can get an erection if he has been tugging all day at home 😂 probably me and my raging hormones needing some adult cuddles and feeling left out ha ha

If he's "always been a bit shy about it" to use your own words re sex etc , he's hardly going to admit to watching porn. You shouldn't feel inadequate. Unless it's an addiction he's spending hours on or its impacting your normal sex life I wouldn't worry. I'd probably worry if you had very different attitudes to sex tho as for me that can be an issue if one of you is very sexually reserved/reticent & the other is high libido & anything goes.

I defo want it more than he does but I’m not sure if i feel I want it more due to him knocking me back.

If we do have sex it’s because he wants to as I would never force him or guilt trip him because it would just make me feel like some kind of predator if I did. I think another reason why he is hesitant because when we do do the deed, he will say ‘I’m shit’ probably a confidence thing for him too.