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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To think you don’t dictate this?

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Cherrypurple · 11/09/2019 17:10

A friend has left some items of clothing at my house for nearing 2 months now. They have only been interested in collecting them within the past week. They have been dictating when they will be collecting their clothes instead of asking me when I’m available. I’m very sick with HG in early pregnancy, do not have the energy to get to the door and my OH is at work. AIBU to think if you leave your items in someone else’s property then it is up to them when you can get your items? Within a reasonable time frame of course. She’s called me 5 times in a row and is pressuring for her to come at 6pm last minute. It’s really annoying and I feel like saying piss off! It’s literally a few T-shirt’s and some leggings, nothing special.

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ElizaPancakes · 11/09/2019 22:30

@SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius I can appreciate it and still have a different opinion to you.

Elodie2019 · 11/09/2019 22:35

Just send her a message and tell her to come and get her stuff at/after 6 when your DH is at home.
If you really can't make it downstairs.
FFS... storm in a teacup.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 11/09/2019 23:11

@WorraLiberty - I don’t know the OP isn’t exaggerating, but I don’t think it is reasonable for anyone to call her a bit of a tit for saying she can’t get up for this trivial reason, when all that is needed is for her friend to wait until her dp comes home and can hand over the oh-so-vital clothing.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 11/09/2019 23:12

And @ElizaPancakes - different opinion - fine. Calling the OP a bit of a tit - not fine.

FireBloodAndIce · 11/09/2019 23:58

She is being unreasonable. She's dicked you around, making you chase her for a date now decides with a few hours notice and threatens police...what if you were out? Away? Holidaying?

She can't say jump and expect 'how high'. Not a friend at all.

Aridane · 12/09/2019 00:14

Oh lovely, she is now threatening me with police action saying someone has recommended she call them

Sounds like she’s been given advice by a mumsnetter

Aridane · 12/09/2019 00:16

Don’t understand the drama- just message her to arrange for her to pick up clothes one evening after work when DH is around to open the dior

LipSyncForYourLife · 12/09/2019 00:21

Use them to make a fugly scarecrow giving the finger and put it outside for her to collect.

BadBehaviour · 12/09/2019 00:24

Sorry Op, I’m confused. What would she report you to the police for? I think they’d laugh at her

BadBehaviour · 12/09/2019 00:35

I do t think it’s a relevant point to say she can go to the toilet so she can answer the door. The point is she isn’t well & doesn’t want to see/speak to anyone is more likely, the last thing you want is someone on your doorstep giving you crap when your poorly

PhilCornwall1 · 12/09/2019 05:16

I would have laughed at her when she mentioned the Police.

Just put the stuff in a bag and chuck it on the doorstep.

Life is too short to worry about shit like that.

rosedream · 12/09/2019 05:28

You're both being unreasonable.

Give her a few options when she can come to collect them ie when H is home.

She's gone over the top with response.

I'm not sure why both of you have escalated it to this level of drama.

I can't stop being sick. Please come at 6.30 instead when H is home. Job done.

blackcat86 · 12/09/2019 05:30

You'd rethink the friendship? Come on OP she'd be dead to me after the police comment, knowing that your pg and ill. I'd get OH to dump the bag on her doorstep and take a photo like amazon do. Where's your boundaries and anger at your friend who is treating you like crap. I'm presuming these arent some high end designer items worth hundreds and that you're not planning on stealing your friends leggings.

flumpybear · 12/09/2019 06:41

The police 🙄 honestly!

I'd leave them outside the front door and tell her to collect immediately and please fine knock as you're sick. Also tell her it's £90 rent - £1 per day for storage 😉

flumpybear · 12/09/2019 06:41

*don't knock

motortroll · 12/09/2019 07:26

It's irrelevant how I'll the op is. Her "friend" is behaving like a brat! A real friend wouldn't expect you to come to the door if you were ill even if you were just wallowing in bed with a cold. And TELLING someone the time you will come to their house is rude!

That's without even escalating it to start talking about the police. Crazed reaction!

So in answer to op no YANBU!!

Rivkka · 12/09/2019 09:40

Meh just text and say they're on the doorstep, no biggie.

WaterOffaDucksCrack · 12/09/2019 09:44

Maybe she's logged it with 101

RedPanda2 · 12/09/2019 09:59

How incredibly dramatic. I really don't think anyone would threaten police action over some leggings. Get DP or whoever to put them near the front door. Let her collect them. Drama over

MulticolourMophead · 12/09/2019 10:01

Dont leave anything on the doorstep as if it gets nicked you'll never hear the end of it.

Text her back to come when your DH is home, he can hand it all over.

WorraLiberty · 12/09/2019 10:21

She literally has to pop them outside the door 5 minutes before her friend arrives.

Witchinaditch · 12/09/2019 11:34

You both sound as bad as each other, I've had HG and could answer the door if you cannot answer the door you need to be in hospital. She’s being mental threatening police.

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