AIBU to be annoyed by people saying 'Keep it Up'?

[MotherofDinosaurs]

I have recently lost quite a lot of weight. (I'm talking stones) People have started congratulating me, but aibu to be incredibly irritated by people saying 'Keep it up'? It just feels faintly patronising and presumptuous. And I'll be the judge of how far I want to go. It just gives me the rage, I think this is because so much of a big weight loss journey involves addiction issues and eating disorder, and therefore the want to change has to come solely from within. And not from being told to fix yourself by other people. I know its meant kindly but wibu to gently ask them not to?

I bet they mean it like "dont feel disheartened we know it is hard"
It is very hard knowing what to say to a person after a big weight loss, the change is obvious it usually gives them a boost too, but if you say wow you look great, does it mean you didn't look great before.
If you say nothing do they think your jealous.
It is a minefield.

I think you are possibly being a little BU.

As the PP, its such a minefield people may not know how to acknowledge your weight loss.

Are there really that many people saying "keep it up" to you?

Are you still quite big?

PS: congratulations

I think you are being a little sensitive so YABU.
However, this would irritate me in exactly the same way

YANBU. That would annoy the hell out of me. It's more than just faintly patronising, plus it kind of negates your achievement.

I don’t think YABU at all. It’s almost like they’re saying “keep going, you’ve not lost enough yet”! I’m on a similar journey myself, still have stones to go which I’m well aware of, I don’t need reminding to “keep it up”!

YABU. Its just a turn of phrase to show a little bit of encouragement. If you start pulling people up for that they'll think you're highly strung, a bit odd, and trying too hard to take offence over a comment that has absolutely no meaning.

YABU
It`s a form of well done you keep up the good work.
They could have said so what , bet you wouldn't have liked that.
Anyway I say congratulations,you have made one hell of an achievement.

They’re just trying to be encouraging. I had the opposite, people started telling me to be careful I didn’t lose too much.

Hmm, I think they mean well, but it is a bit of a clumsy comment.

Some people do fail to manage their body and they end up less happy and (on average) dying sooner. It's pretty high stakes stuff.

So I don't think they mean "you need to lose more!", I think they mean "this is good for you, but does require resolve - be strong!"

I tend to just say "I bet you feel good" and leave it at that. I wouldn't say 'keep it up' but I might say 'keep on with the good work' meaning you must have made some life changes and that I wish you all the best in maintaining them.