To speak to the teacher

[Itsmeme]

So... My daughter has just started year 5 (she's just turned 9 years old) and is sad and lonely as she doesn't have any friends.

The back story is last year she wasn't sleeping well at all, got really bad anxiety. We put it down to a house move. Spoke to her teacher at the time to see if anything was upsetting her and she said there wasn't.

Because her anxiety was at an all time high we went to the docs who referred her to cams where thankfully she sees someone weekly to help her worries and anxiety.

Anyways the summer holidays just passed and she was fine, sleeping better. Now we're back in school she anxiety is through the roof again. She comes so sad and teary saying no one played with her and that she spent her break times just wondering around. It breaks my heart to see her like this and I feel so helpless. I've contacted the school family support worker for help but that hasn't really worked to be honest.

Please help me help her. What can I suggest, how can I help her? Aibu going in to speak to her teacher? Kids can be so mean. She goes up to them and they so no you can't play with us.

Oh bless her, definitely speak to the teacher

Yes I would speak to the teacher. He might not be able to make other kids be friends with her but he could arrange the seating plan so that she is sat with a nice girl. Also he needs to be generally aware of her anxiety so he can support her in the classroom.

Yes, the teacher will be able to help. Always best to start the ball rolling early. Does the teacher know about her anxiety?

Of course you should speak to the teacher, there are things they can do to help with friendships, and they will want to know.

Absolutely I'd be in like a shot. Schools sometimes have nurture groups and stuff you can do at lunch if you are alone. There will be more than one child who's a bit vulnerable at lunchtimes.

I've spoken to the family support worker who suggested to go to a separate building to play games make friends I guess. And my daughter did go but she said it was really busy with other kids with nothing to do and still no one to play with.