To want to become a loner?

[BettyBloom]

First time posting (be nice)

Me and DH have been together 14yrs and married 3. We have several different groups of friends some of which we are really close to. Just recently whenever we mention an activity we have done with another group of friends around other groups of friends they get right up tight and genuinely annoyed we've had fun without them.

We have tried to merge the groups together at special occasions but when o e group hears the others will be there they have ridiculous excuses as to why they cant attend but before mentioning the other group they are all up for it and it's "in the diary". Then we get snide comments about "our new best friends" blaahhh blaahhh.

AIBU to become a loner and forget the outside world exists? I'm too old for playground games.

I know exactly what you mean. Me and DP have been together nearly 30 years and for the last half of that have become "loners". He seems happier with it than me, to be honest, but I feel very lonely sometimes. I think he quite likes that I have no friends. I think I'm saying you should think very carefully before you cut yourself off from other people, because it's hard to change things once you have.