Friends walking off

[Sarawr]

Went for lunch with two friends, our children were playing in the play area after lunch. We started making moves to leave (each in our own cars) but then my young child wanted to keep playing so I decided to stay and let him play longer. I called to my two friends that we were staying, shouted bye, my child shouted and asked me why they weren’t answering, and then I shouted again. When I started calling to them they were only two metres away. They kept walking and talking between themselves. I sat down. They walked all the way to their cars. Aibu to feel upset by this? Not sure if I’m being overly sensitive. One friend did then walk back over to say that they had thought I was following.

So they didn't hear you and when they realised you hadn't followed them one of them came back to check? YABU, they didn't hear you.

You’re being unreasonable. They didn’t hear the shouting or didn’t realise it wasn’t directed to them. When they realised you weren’t following one came back to check.

Honestly I think they didn’t hear you.

I think it's really weird that your child noticed they hadn't replied? You're totally over-reacting and being sensitive. YABU and stop projecting your insecurities to your child.

They didnt hear you or misheard you. Maybe your shouting isn't as loud as you thought.

Really

A big over reaction which is good news - it doesn’t mean anything so you don’t need to let it affect your friendship.

They came back and said they thought you were with them! What’s the issue?

You need to be less sensitive IMO OP

Thanks for the replies. It’s not going to ruin my friendships or anything like that (and I’m certainly not projecting anything onto my child - he shouted bye to them and found it odd that they didn’t reply since they were so close) but I did think it was rude. If you’re out as a three it seems odd for two to walk off having a private conversation. If it were me I would have opened the conversation up to everybody who was present. But I’ll just shrug this one off regardless.

But you weren’t present and they thought you were. It was a non event and you sound overly sensitive and a bit difficult.

Perhaps I am being too sensitive. It’s not the first time it has happened with these two friends in particular so I was thinking it might be better to meet up with them individually. It sounds so juvenile to complain about being left out but it genuinely does hurt my feelings a bit. I’ve never been accused of being sensitive before, but it’s hard to convey the nuances of the relationships online.

Sometimes when people are deep in conversation they zone out so that's all. YABU to think they were ignoring you.

My point was that I find it hard to believe that a child of the age to be at soft play would not only not notice that your friends didn't say goodbye but that they'd raise this with you too.

Truly you sound like you're looking to find fault with them & you're coming across as pretty snippy on here too.

Massively overreacting/being oversensitive. You need to be careful that you’re not becoming hard work for your friends, otherwise they won’t keep putting in the effort. You could start by trying not to jump straight to worst-case.

It was just a misunderstanding.
Sometimes if I'm deep in conversation or even deep in thought I sometimes zone out form what's going on around me.
I always apologise when it happens.
I think they were just having a good chat and hadn't hear you say you were not joining them.
They obviously didn't realise.
If they had deliberately been ignoring you they would have just left without turning back to see where you were.

You are the one that changed the order of proceedings to stay instead of leave. They thought you were with them, you weren't so one came back. If she was ignoring you she wouldn't have come back. That makes no sense.

Just to clarify, it wasn’t soft play, it was a park outside and there was nobody else around, that’s why I was surprised they couldn’t hear me and why my child was also surprised not to get a response. But the consensus is IABU, got the message.