Would I be unreasonable to do this?

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Contact an ex from 5 years ago?

I have no romantic interest in him and no wish to be in a relationship with him. I know people may doubt that but that’s genuinely how I feel.

The reason I would want to contact him is because we both had the same illness and I think about him and how he’s getting on sometimes and would like to know how he’s been.

We were together for 5 years so it was hard when we broke up and we haven’t had any contact since then. He doesn’t have social media so I can’t check if he’s with someone at the moment, I wouldn’t want to cause issues for him if he was so I’m thinking I’m best leaving it? But I wouldn’t want anything out of it apart from to see how he’s getting on. I know it won’t come across that way though and that’s why I haven’t initiated contact before so should I just leave things as they are?

Personally, if he’s not on social media and you had a difficult breakup, I’d leave it. He might not want you get in touch, and as he’s not on Facebook or whatever you couldn’t even do it casually - it would be obvious that you’d made quite an effort to get in touch. I wouldn’t be thrilled if an ex from years ago suddenly got in touch, to be honest.

I think the only reason you’d be contacting him would be to satisfy your own curiosity, and he wouldn’t benefit from that.