Hiding pregnancy

[TANYA90]

I hid my first pregnancy till I went into labour I was under age and had an older abusive partner and didn’t realise I was pregnant with my second child till I was 26weeks with my third I told people after the 12 week scan and had a lot of back lash from family about having another child as my second child is disabled I am now pregnant again it was planned I had a miscarriage earlier this year so not planning on telling people till after 12 week scan but after the last time I announced my pregnancy to everybody saying I shouldn’t be having more kids I feel like I want to keep it to myself after been made to hide my first not knowing about my second then finally having the chance to enjoy my pregnancy it just made me feel bad like i actually feel that I had a happier pregnancy when nobody knew just curious what people would do if they were in my situation should I just keep it between me and my partner only announce it to the kids?

Congratulations! Tell who you want, shout it from the roof tops! It’s great news, anyone who says you shouldn’t be happy just ignore them.

Ugh people are so judgemental! We were worried about what people would say as we are now pregnant with our 4th under 5 and my husband is disabled. But in the end we told people we knew wouldnt be judgemental first, and then slowly told everyone else. Weve ignored any and all bad comments weve had! We know this wasnt planned, were crazy, blah blah! But that doesnt matter! Its your baby not theirs! Your not asking them to have it, tell them to mind their own business!!!

Congrats btw :D x

Tell who you want when you want

congratulations xx

Hi @TANYA90 my first DD is disabled and when I announced pregnancy of second child I too was criticised!! Didn't help I was young too (21) it was awful the questions of what if DD was in hospital, if second was born the same.... you get the picture. When I fell pregnant with third we decided to only tell close family and friends. I didn't reveal my pregnant to my work colleagues (did inform boss) until I was 34 weeks pregnant!! No one guessed either as was still wearing my normal uniform! Worked up to my due date and had two weeks maternity leave before returning to work as I could only claim maternity pay or carers allowance and the carers paid more. (I had returned after second DD to 3 hours a week) most of my customers assumed I had been on holiday. My daughter thinks it hilarious when I tell her how no one knew I was pregnant as she was 8lb 1 born!! (I'm not large either, size 10!) don't know where I hid her, but it was no one else's business and I enjoyed the pregnancy much more as no one was interfering and making me feel bad about having another baby due to eldest disabilities. Do what make YOU happy and feels most comfortable xx

Fuck me, Mumsnet has changed

Thank you everybody it’s been the closest family that were most judgmental and I wouldn’t really be able to hide it I doubt I did with my first had really small bump she was early and I hardly saw anyone my entire pregnancy but the other two iv been massive and I’m very tiny I wear age 12 clothes and could hardly even move with the last one I was so big she was 8lb 13oz tho so really I’d have to become a hermit to avoid people but I havnt told anyone about my miscarriage either only me and my partner know I guess I just feel like iv never had one pregnancy where everybody is happy for me and it’s a happy time all the way but then am I just wishing for too much

No one has the right to rain on your parade. Shame on anyone that makes you feel like you have to hide your pregnancy...congratulations on your wonderful news...