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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To want to not to feel pregnant for a little bit

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Howdidido · 09/09/2019 11:08

34 weeks. So uncomfortable. Just want to have a half hour where I'm not in pain, or feeling uncomfortable. Just one position where I don't feel horrendous.

I know. Be grateful. But its still 6 weeks left. For no other reason would you put up with being this uncomfortable for a month and a half!

Any suggestions?

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Howdidido · 09/09/2019 12:05

Honestly I'm questioning if it's all worth it.
Guess IABU then

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chipsandgin · 09/09/2019 12:08

Of course not, nine months is a very long time, I’m not sure we’re very well designed! I found a massage therapist who had a pregnancy massage table with a big hole for the bump (bad description, but hopefully you get what I mean). It meant my horrible sciatica etc could be worked on & the bliss of lying on my front, even just for an hour was well worth it!

mindutopia · 09/09/2019 12:08

Can you see an osteopath? I made a huge difference for me. I could barely walk at 34 weeks with my first. 2 appointments later and I was actually on the treadmill at the gym nearly jogging 12 hours before I went into labour. I felt 99% better and I had been in a lot of pain. Swimming helped a lot as well and regular low back and hip stretches.

Hangingtrousers · 09/09/2019 12:10

38 weeks and I've spent the morning crying... I'm so fed up of being pregnant!

katmarie · 09/09/2019 12:10

I'm 34 +5 and I completely get how you feel. I would love to be able to hand over my pregnancy to my dh just for an hour or two. I have a hip problem which means I cant walk very far, my back aches constantly, I cant sleep properly, I have to pee every 20 minutes, I'm hungry and feeling sick at the same time and my emotions and hormones are all over the place. I cant get down on the floor to play properly with ds, and I dont have the energy to chase round after him all day. Trouble is if I had a little break I'm not sure I'd ever agree to having my bump back! So I definitely get how you're feeling!

Casander · 09/09/2019 12:10

No suggestions but I'm 30 weeks and I totally get what you're saying. I hate it. I'm fat, I'm fed up, I'm bored, everything hurts, she kicks me constantly and I keep having a remind myself that it'll be worth it. It's hard not to be jealous and grumpy with DH for being able to carry on as normal (he's actually lovely and he pulls his weight, I just hate the fact he can't be like a male seahorse and do it for me lol)

I miss my hobbies, I miss the gym and I want to eat Brie and have a glass of wine! You have my sympathies OP!

thenewaveragebear1983 · 09/09/2019 12:11

I was miserable when I was pregnant. Sick for 8.5 months. Massive. Diabetes, injections, gained loads of weight. Delightful brown stain across my face. Aches, pains. I worked in a prison so I was basically filing all
Day for 7 months until I left. Exhausted, bored, slept terribly.

It's a magical 9 months, make no mistake.

At least it meant that once the baby was born I felt so much better....
this is a lie to make you feel better

OrangeSlices998 · 09/09/2019 12:13

I feel for you OP. Can you go for a swim or see if there's the option of a pregnancy massage near you, something for a bit of relief? I second the suggestion of an osteopath, mine is a miracle worker (albeit I haven't seen her yet in pregnancy!). Big hugs, hope the next 6-8 weeks fly by for you!

Skittlenommer · 09/09/2019 12:21

I could never do it! I complain enough after eating a big burrito, I wouldn’t cope with a baby in me!!

Tableclothing · 09/09/2019 12:23

Yanbu. Pregnancy is shit.

blackfriars · 09/09/2019 12:26

I am currently at 7 + 4 and also feeling horrendous - tired beyond belief and constant tension headaches. You have my sympathy, though I'm sad to see it may get worse not better!

BarbariansMum · 09/09/2019 12:44

Have you tried swimming? I didn't swim so much at that point but I found bobbing around chest deep quite comfortable.

YANBU to be fed up.

RainbowAlicorn · 09/09/2019 12:50

I had 2 terrible pregnancies. I was sick all the way through with my first and had gestational diabetes. With my second I was horrendously sick with my second, the only thing I could keep down was warm lemonade, luckily the sickness stopped at 16 weeks, but i was so uncomfortable from 30 weeks onwards, he engaged at 34 weeks, 3 weeks of braxton hicks, it was a nightmare, so YANBU at all. I would have done anything to just have a break for a couple of hours.

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Howdidido · 09/09/2019 13:11

Oh thank you! Honestly thought I was alone. This is 2nd FT pregnancy and the first one wasn't anything like this. Everyone I know seems to have charmed pregnancies.

I will look for an osteopath as I can't get into my swimming costumes and buying stuff now is just depressing!

and future to everyone else suffering.

10Hangingtrousers me too. Luckily its a working from home day...

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BarbariansMum · 09/09/2019 13:17

Hah, my pregnancy swimsuit looked like a skinned whale. I think it was given to me by a friend, so you could ask around. Or style it out in a bikini.

Chin up OP second pregnancies are tough but the births are often easier and at least this time you know how to hold a baby.

AmIRightOrAMeringue · 09/09/2019 13:22

I found an osteopath helped the pain and they gave me stretches to do at home which helped between visits.

I would go swimming, somewhere with a nice baby pool so its warmer, and just float for a bit, it really helps with aches and pains

AmIRightOrAMeringue · 09/09/2019 13:24

Can you wear a bikini and throw an old t shirt on top?

Sugarhouse · 09/09/2019 13:24

36 weeks here and and so fed up it’s been so much harder 2nd time around and having a two year old to look after is exhausting. I’m really hoping I don’t go 2 weeks overdue again I’m not sure how il cope

mamaoffourdc · 09/09/2019 13:48

Swimming pool, pregnancy massage x

WispaGoldsshouldcomeinmultipac · 09/09/2019 13:53

I understand and sympathise. It's the guilt at feeling crap that hurts too - they told me I'd never concieve naturally so I feel awful that Im not loving every minute, but I can genuinely say of the last 30 weeks I've enjoyed about 3!

coffeeandaciggie · 09/09/2019 13:54

I had a horrible pregnancy too and everyone I knew seemed to be sailing through it. You do have my sympathy. I wanted 3 DC and ended up with one as I couldn't face it again.
But it will soon be over- not much comfort at the moment though. Sorry you're suffering with it.

Bibijayne · 09/09/2019 13:55

I only found a hydrotherapy pool good at the end of my pregnancy.

WaterOffaDucksCrack · 09/09/2019 13:57

I sympathise! I'm 8 days overdue. I've had sickness for which I've had to take medication for throughout the whole pregnancy. My iron count was 60 at one point so I've felt so tired! In pain all the time. I love feeling him/her move but it hurts so much. Worked up until 39 weeks when the hospital said I had to stop. I'd tried to go on mat leave 3 times in the 2 weeks previous but someone always needed something.

It isn't only that, it's the guilt. I feel guilty for feeling this was as I had so many losses before my eldest. And guilty for not being the best mum to him or my step son due to being so ill.

I had none of this with my first apart from not being able to sleep! I was less tired with a newborn because I genuinely got more sleep than when I was pregnant!

JustMe81 · 09/09/2019 13:58

28+5 here and I get it. It took me over 8 years to conceive my 2 year old and I loved my pregnancy. I’m very lucky to be pregnant again but I’m not loving this pregnancy. I feel like I’m a constant fog of tiredness, nausea, backache, kick counting, hunger, aches and pains! You’re definitely not alone. I wish I had some motivational advice for you but I actually don’t have the brain cells left to think of any. 😂

userabcname · 09/09/2019 14:03

Urghh 34+3 here, back killing me, exhausted as can't sleep, feeling sick, weird pain/pressure down below which I think is baby dropping....feel like poo. You are not alone!

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