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To ask for advice, I’m missing my mum so much

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Sosadsosad · 08/09/2019 23:11

My mother died when I was 13. Some days I still miss her so much as if she only just died - even though it’s been 6 years. Can anyone give me any tips on how to get through the worst days/nights (like today) ?

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girlintheglass · 08/09/2019 23:34

I can send you the biggest ever hug 🤗 and tell you I'm thinking of you. Hope someone can come along with some advice for you xxxx

purpleboy · 08/09/2019 23:34

I'm really sorry you had to go through that. It's such a young age to loose someone so important. I'm fortunate to have my parents with me still, but I didn't want to read and run.
I lost my nan at a similar age, I was very close to her and still miss her terribly. For me I always like to remember her, look at pictures or letters she wrote me. I also listened to songs and talked to her. I don't know if any of that would help you, but it always made me feel like she wasn't forgotten. Thanks

MyMuffinsStuck · 08/09/2019 23:36
Flowers

I hope you find some comfort and solace here. Sending and handhold, wish I could do more. Xx

Ebonyandivory2 · 08/09/2019 23:36

Sending you the biggest hug. Is therapy an option? Maybe going through your achievements and taking comfort in the knowledge your mum would be so proud of you

sydneyslife · 08/09/2019 23:39

I'm so sorry that I have no advice, but just want to send you the biggest hug Thanks

Twolittlebears · 08/09/2019 23:42

Big hugs. Does it help to talk about her?

Mopmum35 · 08/09/2019 23:42

O bless you, I also lost my mother ( 7 years ago) ( I was 27) the pain you feel will never go but it will ease... your mother will want you to be happy, When your feeling down talk to her ( I do) let it out ( sounds weird I know but who cares) I just think about how she wont be wanting me to be upset and that's she's just fine up there, it's fine to shed a tear, everyone copes differently. Sending my love Flowers

KellyHall · 08/09/2019 23:42

Making sure you keep contact with your support network.

That could be anything: a chat on mumsnet; messaging a friend; watching your favourite tv show; anything that makes you feel happy about being you Flowers

QuizteamBleakley · 08/09/2019 23:52

Hey Sosadsosad, I feel your pain; it doesn't stop hurting, does it?

Perhaps it would help if we didn't collecively mourn but collectively praised and shared the love. By that, I mean can you tell us all the amazing things about your Mum. What are your fondest memories of her? Is there a smell / place / somg / food / season that evokes that feeling of her being here?

My beloved Aunt made the world's WORST snowball (of the booze variety) and every year, I get an Aadvocat and remember her fuck-awful attempts at what was a simple beverage!

Much love Flowers

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