Baby's 1st birthday

[Siarky45]

Hello all.

I need to know if IABU! I was at a kids role play with my 11mo DS and MIL last week and he was playing in the toy kitchen, I told her that the last time I took him there he LOVED the kitchen so I was going to buy him one for his first birthday at the end of this month (27th Sept). She said that it was a great idea and if I thought of any other ideas of things they could get him for the kitchen I.e pots pans etc to let them know. My partner dropped our son to their house today as he was spending the afternoon there and when he comes back from dropping him off he tells me that they have bought him a massive toy kitchen with pots & pans, toaster, coffee maker and all the bits of fake food, the whole shebang. I am just beyond upset and so angry that this has happened. He's a lucky baby and is just very much loved but I just feel like this is a massive kick in the teeth?! They then sent us pictures of him playing with the kitchen and said how much he loved it and I said we were going to buy him a kitchen for his birthday and MIL just said well you can just buy him one for your house. Is this not just super odd behaviour?! Am I being unreasonable for thinking this was a calculated move? Help

Thanks everyone for your input it's really appreciated! Some of you saying to look at it a different way and be grateful that is probably a healthier way of looking at it. I do understand the generosity, there's been things like they wanted to buy him his first pram, his first pair of shoes, a swingset for their garden, a big slide and countless other things which I have been delighted with as it's things he needs or enjoys and I'm happy for them to spend the money on big ticket items and it saves me a fortune! I think what bothers me in this respect was her going specifically out of her way to buy the thing I told her I was already getting him for his birthday. For her to just randomly buy him one days after telling her and then give it to him not even for any specific reason, the timing is off to me. Even my partner is like WTF mum 😂 but there's worse problems to have in the world than being annoyed that your baby is majorly loved and everyone wants to spoil him. Just wish she would be bloody original she is always just copying everything I do but I have now learnt just to keep things closer to my chest then that way if there is ever a crossover of gifts I know 100% there is no ill intention.

Also I guess I should have added that his mum has told me on many occasions that she finds me difficult, so she probably hates me and wants to annoy me, so now I think about it this issue might go deeper than toy kitchens!

It's a massive shame actually our relationship with my in laws has been absolutely fantastic for the past 9 years, holidays together abroad every year, Christmas together every year etc, spending almost every weekend together and as soon as baby boy arrived this odd rift power struggle has appeared and it does make me sad. Maybe we should all break bread in DS new fancy kitchen 😏

No, that's nasty

Was all on to reply sounds like a nice thing to do as they knew liked kitchen stuff, but then read properly!
She knew you said you were buying kitchen. Went ahead and bought before you had a chance to. I'd be well pissed off too.
Then again, I've had years of MIL undermining me and DH so I'm uber sensitive to this type of shit, believe me it doesn't get any better though unless you say no more which isn't easy, but for your sanity start now and early!
Sorry, projecting but true lol

Sorry, cross posted, not seen any updates - is it your first child?
If so we were OK but then grandchildren were born and then it's a case of trying to take over or undermine