To stop buying birthday and Christmas gifts for my neices and nephews

[Myfeetarekillingme]

My sister has four children, I have two older step children. My nieces and nephews are all under 10.

Every year I buy Christmas gifts for each of my nieces and nephews and on each birthday they get a card and a gift plus sister and BIL get birthday and Christmas cards plus a token gift at Christmas.

Nothing unusual so far.

Myself, DH and step children are lucky if we get a text message at Christmas or on any of our birthdays. I appreciate four kids is a handful but come on, she expects to receive gifts.

Recently my nephew had a birthday. He got his card and gift and they haven’t even acknowledged receipt of it (it was a few weeks ago not yesterday). I know he got it from my youngest niece mentioning something but neither my nephew nor his parents have said thank you or even yeah we got your gift.

AIBU to stop giving gifts and cards?

YANBU! I would most definitely stop giving gifts. Especially if the lack of reciprocating isn't a new thing. (I know you don't give to receive, but when children are involved it's the decent thing to do.)

Well I wouldn't punish the children if you have a nice relationship with them they might wonder why you've stopped. I would stop cards and gifts for the adults though.

I would stop card/gifts for the adults. And stop gifts for the children who are old enough to thank you directly. I would continue for the younger ones. My 8yrs old is getting to that age where she can thank ppl directly/realises the importance of saying thanks. My 5yrs old wouldn't have a clue and would expect you to know that she is thankful/happy with the gift and it's therefore my job to ensure she thanks people properly.

I did exactly this with my niece and nephew on My late husband's side of family. Never a thankyou or acknowledgement from the kids or late husband's sister. Furthermore no reciprocating for my two kids either. So I stopped. I don't regret it.