AIBU to get frustrated at some threads on MN?

[SuzieSunshine]

I've been on here for a couple of months now and I'm wondering if other people get a bit frustrated with how some threads pan out..
For example, why does the OP feel the need to apologise for either the content or the length of their post. Some also ask not to be 'hauled over the coals' or 'flamed' - it's almost as though some posters are frightened of reactions. I also can't understand, when it's blatantly obvious that the poster IBU or NBU, that they come back to argue the point that people are advising them against. A few OP's have literally ended the thread as they don't like what's been advised and have accused others of attacking them when most of the advise makes perfect sense but it's just that they don't want to hear it. If you post and don't want to listen or like the responses then don't post in the first place!! This is just my opinion, but I find some of the posts are so frustrating that it makes me wonder why they bother if they won't take on board what the majority of people are trying to tell them. What do you think??

I get frustrated by some threads too. Agree with you there. Also agree with the fear aspect as there are some massively intolerant people here that seem to take a perverse joy in deliberately taking things out of context and deploying goady sarcasm.
However, I don’t think it is ever obvious whether something is NU or U.
I also don’t think that majority always equals “right.”

I get frustrated with pointless threads about nothing

What gets me is ‘I’ve name-changed for this but I’m a longtime poster’

YANBU OP

There was one thread that has stuck in my mind. The OP had shared and incident regarding her DH and their DS. The more info she shared, the more apparent it became that the DH was 100% abusive and had been throughout their marriage. The more posters replied to her saying so, the more defensive and aggressive she became and then she had the thread deleted because she didn't like being 'attacked'. It made me so frustrated as 99% of posters were in agreement about the abuse but she just wouldn't have it. Threads don't usually play on my mind but that one has.

I think some women who are being abused just can't deal with other people pointing it out. It makes it too real.

I get frustrated when OPs just disappear....

It's an internet forum, so little you can do about your niggles. They don't really owe any of the readers anything. I find threads on other sections are much more down to earth than AIBU.

I hate the bitchiness and the fact that some people hover like flies round shit on AIBU waiting to be abusive and nasty to other people and then come out with "well you shouldn't ask us then....". The thing is, people are asking for advice, not abuse. MN has made me realise that there are some crazy bitches out there!

I know the thread you are talking about. It is frustrating she didnt see what others saw, but at least we have planted a seed and she may see sense eventually.

I mainly get frustrated trying to wade through the utter bollocks to find some actual real content.

Yes - and never get to hear the ending!! I was reading one thread (it's in classics and is quite old) about a little girl who had lost her toy mouse. Little girl was distraught so MN's managed to track one down and the OP was going to post the mouse to her daughter and pretend the mouse had been on holiday. I want to know the little girl's reaction!! OP if you are, by some chance, reading this - let me know!!

With threads like the one OP refers to, the poster has an agenda that they need confirming that they aren't BU about some very trivial matter (because their self esteem has become so eroded by abuse) There have been many threads when it is something so trivial and a grossly excessive overreaction has exposed how abusive a relationship is and often the OP isn't ready to see it yet and the unanimous MN verdict of he's abusive, LTB, he's dangerous, make your plans is not well recieved. It wasn't a thread I commented on, but it was very worrying content and I hope it is the start of the OP looking at her situation afresh, or helpful to someone else facing similar levels of control.
It may well be wise that that thread was pulled. The OP is in a potentially very dangerous situation from her abuser and the level of control he's exerting over her.

A lot of people post for confirmation and don't like being told that they are incredibly unreasonable over genuinely trivial stuff. You'd need a thick skin to post on AIBU, and sometimes it's the luck of the first few posters that set the tone for bunfight or support. Sometimes the same topic can sway in quite random directions. Some are highly predictable.

Get off AIBU and explore the other topics.