DP leaves shoes out

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My DP leaves his shoes out on the floor where me and DS trip on them. I've told him a few times to please move them where we can't trip on them. But it won't. He tells me and I can move them if I don't like it.

I'm upset about it, I said I'm not your mum, you do it yourself. He said he would do it for me. I think he's being very childish.
Am I being unreasonable?

Well, DH complains because I leave my shoes in the kitchen. It’s not disrespectful, it’s where I usually them off and crack on with jobs.

He leaves his cereal bowl on the table every single day. That does piss me off because it implies I’m going to clear up after him.

But with the shoes, I just leave them in a different place than he would like.

Best to try and chill about this I think, more than one way to skin a cat.

I would move them to somewhere he's unhappy with. If he complains - "you told me to move them" - is your response. Then hopefully he'll get to the point where he will move them himself. He's being unreasonable not to do it, so some unreasonable-ness in return is called for I reckon.

JUst kick them into the corner of the room. Then let him search for them, do it each and every time and when he complains just say I did as you asked and moved them

It is hard to change of a lifetime, I leave shoes in random rooms unless I am in the hall beside the shoe press.
It doesn't bother me but if DP was criticising my weird engrained behaviour I'd be defiant too.
No one is perfect.

Some irritating habits aren't worth complaining about, but leaving trip hazards is a different matter.

He probably doesn't perceive the problem because when he encounters the shoes he's probably going to put them on. Whereas especially if you're carrying something you may not notice them till it's too late.

When you're living in a small space with young children, you need to be tidy.

Him leaving his shoes were he is, is a big 'fuck you'.

How is everything else between you?

My DH has the habit of leaving his shoes directly in a doorway . No idea how or why he got to his age without realising that’s completely irresponsible but there you go. Drives me mad.

DH insisted that we NEEDED a shoe cupboard, but apparently what he meant was that the rest of us needed it, and he should be allowed to leave 5 pairs of shoes lying next to it. It drove me insane.

Then we got a puppy - a teething puppy, and I 'didn't notice' it was chewing his work shoes. Oops. Problem solved.

I appreciate this might not help the OP, but it was immensely satisfying.

Pick up shoes, open door, throw. He wont do it again

He said he would do it for me

Right ... so he reckons he can move your shoes, but he cannot move his own?

Bullshit.
Ask once more, saying that as you find it annoying, would bhe please oblige you in this trival matter?
If he still refuses, you have a bigger problem than ripping over shoes. The lack of respect, courtesy, & ability to give a shit about pleasing you over such a small matter reeks of selfish entitlement ... & maybe a little of control.

gah! - TRIPPING not ripping.

Yup hurl them out of the back door or hope the cat poos in one of them.

I’ve got a ‘coffee mug leave wherever as twatty wife will clear it’ we came back from two weeks holiday and the 1/4 cup of coffee was mouldy.

I used to share a flat with a guy like this. I learnt to ignore it and let him fester in his slum-like conditions and just keep my own room clean and tidy.

However, when I first moved in I filled THREE black bin bags with empty milk bottles that had covered the kitchen worktops in various states of half-empty rancidness. The poor milkman nearly had a heart attack when he got all his milk bottles back in one go and ended up removing them in stages over a week. I then made one attempt to sort out the decaying mouldy mugs when we ran out of mugs and I went in my flatmate's room and found over 50 disgustingly gross mugs in there. After that, I kept my own clean supply of mugs in my room. Some people are just nasty and have no problems living in their own filth.

Move them to the bin for him.

Chuck em out the window - no respect from DP in the shoe department.