Am I too old?

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So. I've just been on a night out with friends who are mostly younger than me. My youngest ( who was being looked after by my adult child wouldn't go to sleep), so I went home. None of my work friends have kids so I get that they don't understand, but it makes me feel like crap to know that they are probably now all gossiping about me because I went home early. Kids come first, but they won't get that. I just want to have a social life and a home life. Is that too much to ask?

I don’t have kids but a few of my friends do and I’m mature enough to know if they leave a night out for their kids it is more than a good enough excuse. Their kids are quite young still (all under 5) and I might think awh that’s a shame they’ve had to leave but nothing more.

If they’re gossiping it says more about them than you. I wouldn’t worry too much.

What is your AIBU?

Your friends didn't make you go home?
You went home by choice?

They may be sympathetic?

Are you slightly drunk and feeling anxious because nothing about what you've said makes you unreasonable. I once at the age of 24 went home early because I wanted to buy a burger from a restaurant which I knew was closing at 11:30pm.

I think you're just anxious that they'll be talking about you. For what reason. Because you went home. That's mad.

Yes I was a little drunk when I wrote this haha, and probably anxious. They shouted comments down the phone when my child rang to ask when I was going home. Just funny comments to them I'm sure but it made me anxious about then having to go home, which made me think they'd be gossiping about it after I left. Aibu to be annoyed that they made comments and think that they don't understand what it's like to have kids, I guess is what I was getting at.

I don't know what the 'am I too old part was all about'. Just a bit drunk and anxious I guess

Why do you presume they don't understand and presume they are gossiping? Is this how they have proven themselves to be? If so maybe they aren't friends.

I don't have kids but I can understand someone needing to go home if there's an issue and be mature and nice enough not to gossip about it. What would they even have to say about it?!

This is nothing to do with having kids/not having kids, it sounds like you don't have very nice friends if you're sure they'd bitch about you afterwards.

...or you're way overthinking it and being paranoid.

If you're old enough to have an adult child you're old enough to not be jumping to conclusions about people talking about you, I'm sure they just carried on with their night without a second thought. And if they did talk about it...so what? What else could you have done? There's a good chance they will understand if not now but in future.

If they shout comments down the phone when your little one wants you. Are they really friends?

How old are they? Because even my friends teenager wouldn't do that and understands little children need their mum sometimes so events have to be left early

You had all had a drink, they were just parking about, your over thinking things,I bet there are a few of them that wishes they had a family to go back to.

Well - you and your friends don’t sound very old to me at all, but I think that’s because I’m well beyond the age of getting drunk and shouting comments down someone else’s phone.

I’m also not sure why your adult child had to ring you? Can’t she deal with her younger sister for an evening to give you a break?

I agree with the "so what if they are talking about you". You were all probably drunk. But more than likely they just carried on with their night.

"kids come first"

Not always. You're entitled to a night out and your child should be told that. If ypur Adult child didn't mind them staying up, ypu shouldn't have gone back.

My five year old Granddaughter is going through a bit of seperation anxiety and to feed into that wouldn't do her, or my DD any good.

In the light of day yes i was over thinking. They have been known to bitch about things but doesn't mean that they did last night, and now I'm sober I don't care if they were anyway. Getting over emotional will teach me not to drink as much, and no I probably didn't need to go straight home but it's just me and my kids and I know I worry too much. Less alcohol next time!