My ds used to go to his dad's Fri to Sun eow. 52 nights per year.. Occasionally he'd ask to have him a few nights in the hols. No more than 5 per year..
He chose to move 30 miles away so not massively far.
Ex became a bit of a mess about booking weekends away with his dw on ds weekend and not seeing him for 4 weeks sometimes more. Occasionally he'd ask to ' swap' a weekend but ds hated it as it meant he didn't see dsd who we have on the weekend he's with us.. He loves our family time.
His dad then asked if it could be just sat to sun as he could do over time on the sat morning.
I didn't notify cms as to be fair in general he paid on time etc and I couldn't be bothered with the hassle. But if ever there was a thing he disagreed with he'd threaten no maintenance.
Anyway a Yr ago cms called and he'd applied for a variation as it costs him £20 per fortnight to collect ds and return him.
So. I agreed that's fine.. However whilst on the phone I notified of the drop in shared contact.. He saved £5 per month in variation.. Ds gained £60+ in maintenance.
He's still throwing it in my face.. That 8 was petty.!. I don't believe I was. The dropped Contacr was for 6m or more and I hadn't notified them
He's now saying he will pick ds up the Fri again but ds a) doesn't want to and b) has joined a club on a sat morning until midday
I'm. Guessing it's because he's just received his annual review which looks like it's going up by a tiny bit again.
He's saying I'm unreasonable for ' grassing he don't have ds 52 nights a year'
He then said can he send ds on train as cheaper than fuel. I said no as altho he's a teen he's not the most sensible.. And b. You've had a variation for fuel to bring him door to door.. So that's what should be done... That is prob Petty but he's been on at me all weekend calling me a money grabber.. Fwiw he doesn't supply anything there for ds not even a toothbrush.. Well he did but it was a kids one as in a 6 to. 8 Yr one.