Missing dc when she goes back to school

[Snooky84]

It feels like I'm the only one that loves the school holidays and hates the first day back at school.
I have loved spending time with my dd and still had lots I wanted to do but never got time to and she's growing up so fast. I loved the relaxed pace of the summer and all the laughs.
I don't if it's because I struggled to conceived and I feel so bless to have my children that enjoy time with them so much. But it really grates on me is parents celebrating kids going back.

1. If said in front of your child surely it would upset them to think even their own parent doesn't want to spend time with them.
2. If you don't like spending time with children why did you have them (this is an honest question not a judgement)

I know I'm about to get shot down in flames here, but I'm just wondering if anyone else enjoys the school holidays and I'm not the only one.

I do work but from home so i am very lucky that I don't need to worry about childcare. So I do appreciate that it must be hard to organise for others and I always invite children round for play dates over the summer to help out.
All my outing have to be carefully budgeted for and are often free.

Oh, I should add though - I made sure not to say how relieved I was in front of them. I might have been super stressed and strung out but I'm not that insensitive.

So you have 7 children and don't need to work? We have one child and struggle to make ends meet while both working full time. Can't you see how different lives are?
There are so many people out there in so many different situations. They don't owe you an explanation why their summer holidays might have been difficult.

For some, the routine might help make their whole family's life easier. They can't focus on just one child. For others, they may need to invoke the help from extended family which is always difficult as you can't ever complaint about free childcare.
Even for those who do get time off, maybe their child is just hard work and they can't wait to just sit in 5mins peace for the first time in 6 weeks.

Ultimately, does it fucking matter?

SeraphinaDombegh
I'm not shaming you (although as you say I feel really bad for the children who parents bad mouth their own children in front of them)
But people frequently tell me I'm the crazy one for not being excited. So I guess I was looking for honest explanations and a comrade.

Sorry, cross post.

You work so fair enough but surely you, even more so understand why working from home with a young child can be difficult throughout the summer which can be very stressful for some parents?

Struggled to conceive so you love them more??
How ignorant, offensive and ridiculous.
So all the posts you’ve seen from parents who are pleased the summer break is over have been from parents who got pregnant easily (and therefore care less)?
Dd has just gone into reception. So after 4 years, never mind just the summer break, I’m not going to spend all that lovely time with her.
And what a relief that is.
4/5 yr olds are bloody hard work. Managing working full time and child care is bloody hard work.
She will absolutely revel in being with her friends and teachers 5 days a week and I will enjoy the evenings and weekend I see her when I’m not working.
Do I love her or appreciate her less than you do yours? Fuck off.
Did was adopted after many years of struggling and 4 failed ivf cycles. Not for a second do I think I feel any differently from any other parent just because she took a fuckload of effort and time to get.

Of course people don't owe me an explanation but I have the right to ask.
You don't have to answer. I do work.

What work do you do from home
That allows you to look after a 1 yo, a 2 yo with disabilities and a 5yo?!

I was ALWAYS soooo sad/wistful when every September rolled around & when the uniforms and were all being organised and 'proper' shoes after a summer of sandals and messiness... i always felt like the sands of time were running thru my fingers (cue dramatic violin music)

2. If you don't like spending time with children why did you have them (this is an honest question not a judgement)

I’m sorry but this is ridiculous, I love my children but that doesn’t mean I want to spend every single second of the day with them! I’m a single parent to 4 with no help quite frankly school is the only break I get!!

Your OP sounds like my sil who also has the same thoughts as a sahm with a household income of 150k, local retired parents for regular childcare including 2 child free weekends over the summer and a cleaner who comes for 3 hours a week.

Meanwhile whilst I have loved having the children off and I could’ve waited a few more weeks, me and DH both work full time. We have a significantly lower income meaning less money to spend on rainy days. We’ve constantly juggled childcare and have got family to help out but this means visitor in our home for a week.

So yes I’m glad to get back to the routine of school. But I love my children very much and enjoy spending every minute with them at weekends

I generally enjoy the summer holidays but I do think by the end the kids are ready to go back and I'm ready for them to go back.

Like you I have teens and younger children. Unlike you I find it really hard trying to entertain them all.
We seem to pretty much exhaust all the local free stuff in the first two weeks. The younger two are happy to keep going to the park/woods/river every day, not so much the older two.

I hate making bloody packed lunches though so roll on half term in that respect!

You might have the right to ask if people love and miss their children as much as you do, but that does make it any less of a bad question.

You sound very smug OP.

What @OakElmAsh said on P1.

My dc1 is lovely, but really struggled with the lack of routine in the holidays, and the lack of the activities that he would normally do outside of school, which often didn't run in the holidays. He then turned into the child @SeraphinaDombegh describes. So yes, I'd look forward to him getting back into routine and calming down a bit.

MeAndHimAndHer
It's not that I feel I love them more than others (this might be for a whole new thread) but I can remember being out when I was struggling to convince and hearing someone saying to their child 'your a nightmare I wish I'd never had you' and me thinking you don't know how much I to have a child.
So I feel i understand how fragile life is.
Also as I'm sure you can guess not all my children are birth children.

I have a friend who calls her kids "the little shits" to their faces, and openly admits she hates school holidays as it messes with her routine. Which is getting up at 10am, having a brew, going to the gym, having lunch, then watching afternoon TV. She brags that her husband does all of the chores and also works, and that she doesn't have to do anything. She hates her own children for coming in the way of her own princess routine.

I think your reaction to going back to school is much more acceptable and motherly.

Also, some people dont broadcast their true feelings. I can almost guarantee that somewhere out there is a mother who is gutted her children are back at school but is posting the "yey" posts on social media to hide their pain. Personally, I feel like a failure as a parent that I work full time and miss so much time with DS yet I pretend to everyone IRL that I like working because that's easier than admitting how I feel.

Oh believe me money is very very tight and budgeting has to be done with care in our house. I wish I had 150k.

I don't really get your posts.
Your op talks as if you have one dd who you struggled to conceive.
Then you talk of six children in a later post.
Do you only miss the one dd then?

I've always missed my DC when they've gone to school - all year round.

I'm the weirdo who cries on the way to work because I'd rather be at home with them.

Maybe it's because my children are really lovely, and I'd rather spend time with them than anyone else.

They're all older now, and I will miss my 20yo when he goes back to uni. I realise that's unpopular and I shouldn't care and just be pleased he's grown up (I am, and I'm incredibly proud- I once couldn't see how he could make it through high school) but he's just so nice to have around.

Also I do feel very guilty about much in my life. Setting kids off to play alone so I can answer work calls and emails. (but I tell myself it's good for them, even if I have to mute a call to answer a question about poo and not giving child full attention).
That my dh comes home and mucks in instead of resting.

Ah, sorry, I think i misunderstood. Your 5yo dd will be going back to school, and you'll still have the other two little ones with you. So, you'll miss her. Sorry. I get it now.

LynetteScavo
Thanks
That's exactly how I feel.
None of my workmate hug me and tell me they love me.
(many of them throw tantrums haha)

Back to the question. I love both times. I love the school holidays spending lots of relaxing times with my dds. But I also love term time, when I get to back to my yoga and other exercise, and adult lunches with my friends, and I enjoy my part time work too. So, I might say I'm looking forward to term time, but it doesn't mean that I didn't enjoy the school holidays, just that I've put on 5kg.

I’m like you OP. Absolutely love the holidays even if it’s just half term. Term time is so restrictive if you want to do something really fun with your kids. And weekends fly by. I loved the summer and it went way too fast for my liking. I also hate the school run - I’m not a morning person in the slightest lol.