Been with DH 27 years. Have a 15 year old daughter. Very disappointed with how our lives have turned out TBH. Love DD dearly; she is amazing, clever, caring, funny, hardworking, a fantastic child. DH is a decent man, but we’ve grown increasingly distant and I don’t have feelings for him any more. Trying to keep going until DD is 18, so that it doesn’t mess up her final years at school & trying not to argue with DH, but it’s hard. He’s been under pressure recently, as he’s been made redundant and his parents are ill. He helps them out a lot, he’s a good son. He mentioned that he’s going to their house tomorrow to do them lunch and clean their house. He implied that he’d be gone a long time. I said, ‘Don’t forget your responsibilities here.’ I’ve also helped MIL and PIL a lot, to the extent that it made me ill, as I was doing this in addition to working FT, so now I do substantially less. I just don’t want him to get drawn into spending hours upon hours there so that he doesn’t put the time and effort into finding a new job and doing things that are necessary here. There are certain things he’s better at than I am, but he never seems to get them done. When I said this, he went nuts, accusing me of slagging off his DM and DF, and calling me names in front of our DD. In the past, I have criticised MIL & FIL for their lifestyle choices, but only because I’ve been concerned that they would become ill, which they have. DH seems to think that I’ve made personal criticisms, which I haven’t. Was I that U to remind him of his responsibilities? I really don’t think I deserved his reaction.