To not want to be woken up in the middle of the night by dh

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Confusedandunsure2019 · 07/09/2019 07:38

Dh has worked nights all week so we have barely seen each other. He finished yesterday morning. Then went out last night for a lads night. I am totally fine with that as I came down with a cold yesterday and feel pretty awful so wanted nothing more than an early night once dd had gone to sleep.

Dh came in about 2am, drunk, rather loud which woke me up and then insisted on cuddling, groping me and trying to talk. I told him I'm feeling awful and wanted sleep and he got the hump that I didn't pay him any attention when he came in.

He then fell asleep almost immediately while I ended up being awake for ages and now feel worse than I did!

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QueenofmyPrinces · 07/09/2019 07:40

YANBU.

When my husband goes out he knows not to even bother coming upstairs and he finds the spare quilt and pillows all ready for him in the living room so he can sleep on the sofa

Whatjusthappenedthere · 07/09/2019 07:41

This sounds so familiar. Maybe it’s a thing some men do. Bloody annoying. If it’s a one off I would let it go so long as he apologises. For me it’s a regular occurrence and I’m getting to the end of my tether. I feel your pain.

PennyPittstop · 07/09/2019 07:42

Ugh. Nothing worse than a drunk overly affectionate man when you feel like death warmed up. I'd have been grumpy too.
Get well soon

Yogurtcoveredricecake · 07/09/2019 07:45

Wake him up now.

Mine sleeps in the spare room if he's been out.

DoctorAllcome · 07/09/2019 07:55

Lol. He wanted drunken sex and had forgotten you were sick.
Maybe he’ll catch your cold and get man flu as punishment.

YANBU...I’d ignore his complaints from last night. They are not worth doubting yourself over. Even if you didn’t have a cold, you’re not obligated to cuddle with him on demand.

adaline · 07/09/2019 08:00

I would be pissed off too.

He was horny and chanced his luck and was pissed off that it didn't work!

Mothership4two · 07/09/2019 08:09

My dh has done similar in the past. You are quite rightly pissed off with him. A male drunk horny brain does not make logical decisions. He is probably going to have a horrible hangover

EleanorReally · 07/09/2019 08:20

if the boot was on the other foot would you do the same?

IAmALazyArse · 07/09/2019 08:35

Yanbu.
I do that to my DH once a year🤦 I just NEED to tell him how my night was and what's new and how I like him and how butterflies are really cool
and how I need a cuddle and well if there is more, let's get rocking.......
We do have a laugh about it in a morning. Luckily.
If it was a regular occurrence that would be a massive problem.

Cluelessbeetroot · 07/09/2019 08:41

If he wakes up either mortified or not remembering but then apologising once you tell him what happened AND crucially if it is a one off, I think I’d let it go. We’re all a little bit idiotic when we’re drunk.

Whatjusthappenedthere · 07/09/2019 09:20

Just remembered. I did this to my husband on valentines night after a night out with school run Mums ! We hadn’t had sex for months possibly for a year due to a rough patch in our marriage ... Our son was born just before Christmas!

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