To be upset by this?

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So my son has been bullied in school so badly that he has had several nose bleeds after an older boy punching him and kneeing him in the face day and coming home and crying at night not to go to school. I pulled him out of that school as the school did nothing about it.

Anyway, my problem is my husband saw the bullies mother in the shop. He came home and told me That he saw her in the shop. He said that she had spoke to him and that he spoke back to her with general chit chat.

I am absolutely fuming. Really upset by it. Surely this isn’t right to speak to her? You’d just walk away?

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It really depends on how the mother reacted to the bullying.

Some lovely mums have children who do horrid things, so I can't make a judgement on her purely on what her son did.

I am not sure whether she knows it’s our son that her son has been bullying.

So she might not know but you want him to treat her in an effectively bullying manner in retaliation for her son’s behaviour?

Allfourofthem- walking away from another adult in the shop is not bullying.

Not sure I would be chit chatting with them, I would be more likely biting my tongue so bloody hard not to lay it out what her child had done to mine 🤷🏻‍♀️

Depends how small a village or town your in.

Did the mother even know about the bullying??

If she knew about it and refused to do anything about it then YANBU. But otherwise YABU.

I can't move past the fact the school did nothing about another child punching and kicking your son. Really??!

YABU, If she doesn't know then she can't be expected to do anything about it so therefore doesnt deserve to be ignored.

Lalag-They said they’d watch him but he was still getting hurt.

Thanks for your replies.

Your husband is behaving like an adult.

You say you don't know if the mother even knows what went on with your son, so course he's going to be civil to her. It doesn't mean they're best mates ffs. What did you want him to do? Flounce off when she might not have the faintest idea what the problem is?

Also, the fact that her son is a total arsehole at school probably isn't something she actually has much control over. Especially if the school were lax in dealing with it and didn't notify her.

That’s awful what happened to your son.
Your dh maybe totally separates the mother and son in his mind. So he was able to do the chit chat thing. I wouldn’t feel able to make small chat in a similar situation but we’re all different, try not to be mad at your DH. It’s the bully you’re mad at really.
I hope your son is in a better school now.

Isaidsont- Thankyou.

Thw mother is just as rough as the son though ☹️ And he still spoke to her.