To ask for any advice to help with night dryness

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Not really AIBU but posting for traffic.

I get that it's hormonal, have been to GP and was told the same and they won't refer or try anything until child is 7. But DS1 (5) is currently utterly mortified that his little brother (2 last month) has just potty trained and is totally dry and has stopped wearing nappies at night, whereas he's still in pull-ups. Had proper tears at bedtime about it. We already keep drinking to a minimum in the evenings, tried lifting him for a dream-wee for ages but it started causing night terrors and didn't help anyway. He wakes up with his pull up soaked every morning. He has ASD and is generally slightly developmentally behind, though does usually seem to catch up at some point with all milestones. Very grateful for any advice either for helping with the wetting, or with the psychology of helping him understand that it doesn't matter his baby brother is doing something he can't? Doesn't help that DS2 is outrageously proud of himself and giving us all a constant stream-of-consciousness bulletin on his toileting prowess .

I was in the same boat with DD, the difference being that she was also getting recurrent UTIs. We ended up with a referral when she was about 6/7, and she was put on desmopressin which stopped the night time wetting, and Oxybutinin which helped with the UTIs. She just turned wasn’t producing those night time hormones, and ended up taking the tablets until she was about 12.
It’s so wearing having to do the washing every day, so I feel for you.
For us, it was important that she knew she wasn’t doing anything wrong, and there was nothing to be embarrassed about.

No advice but since my 7.5 year old is still wetting I'm here to listen for any advice

My Ds was still wet every morning up until he was 6 or 7, he was given a bed wetting alarm after being referred and was dry within a week - I couldn’t believe how quickly it worked! He was also to increase the amount he drank during day (had hardly been drinking anything at school) and not to drink black currant in evening

Praise DS1 for something else he's good at?

My 4 year olds autistic. He’s seriously happy in a nappy. He has no motivation to change. Nappies make him feel secure.

Just a thought, but can you make him feel secure in a pull up if that’s what he needs? Talk about how that’s ok if that’s what makes him comfortable?

I second the bed wetting alarm. Just tried this over the summer with my 6 year old who had also clocked that others were dry but he wasn’t. Doctor and ENZt has confirmed nothing medically concerning.

He was so taken with this magic alarm that would vibrate to wake him up to tell him he needed to go - he really took it on and clipped it on himself every night. He also stopped late night drinks to try to help himself get through for longer. It took about 3 weeks as he was just such a deep sleeper but we had lots of disposable bed sheets and the aim initially for him was just to wake up and finish the wee on the toilet. I would just strip off the disposable and put him straight back to bed. He just wore pants so very speedy changes. Then slowly he had some nights completely dry. He still has the alarm - it recommends 4 weeks dry before stopping. To be honest I think I will keep using it until he tells me he doesn’t need it anymore!

Check if you have a euneresis (bedwetting clinic) in your area. You can usually self refer and i thought they saw kids from 5 now.

We took DS when he was 7. They put us on waiting list for bed alarm. But DS just sorted it himself in the 8 weeks we were waiting.. I think it was just talking to nurse, she gave tips, made him believe he could do it and so he did. So if he has had any dry nights there is something to work with.

Other than that I guess you've seen ERIC website which has tons of info.

Two of mine have ASD and weren’t dry at night until they were 8. But since then no problems at all. It can take a bit longer for some kids but it will happen eventually.