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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To think this isn't right?

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Tenness · 06/09/2019 18:28

My friend has a just turned one year old. I was talking to her husband the other day and he mentioned that the baby was tired because they'd got home late from drinks at his parents' house. He said neither he nor my friend can remember getting home because they were so pissed. I said 'with the baby?' and he said yes.

My friend is very, very sensible usually. I was really surprised and thought it was downright dangerous, though I didn't say that, but I don't have kids so maybe I'm thinking too much into it?

AIBU to think it's not okay to be so pissed you can't remember with a baby you're taking home?

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WorraLiberty · 06/09/2019 18:31

Honestly, if you just want to judge these parents (and rightly so) then you may as well just own it.

But asking "AIBU to think it's not okay to be so pissed you can't remember with a baby you're taking home?"

Just makes you look daft.

BendydickCuminsnatch · 06/09/2019 18:33

YANBU I do personally think that’s inappropriate.

dudsville · 06/09/2019 18:33

I agree with WOrral.

imnotinthemood · 06/09/2019 18:38

Of course it's not right they should be ashamed of themselves.

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Tenness · 06/09/2019 18:40

But asking "AIBU to think it's not okay to be so pissed you can't remember with a baby you're taking home?

I'm not a parent, don't know any young kids (except this one), never looked after a kid, she's my only friend who has a kid and there's no kids in my family. She's very, very sensible. Pre-kids she's leave a night out early. Doesn't go on any now. Being so sensible then being so blasé about it I started thinking 'hang on, is this normal?'

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Eatsshoootsandleaves · 06/09/2019 18:45

It's not normal. And it's not acceptable to be that drunk while responsible for a baby. I'm also surprised that his parents didn't step in, surely they would have had concerns about the safety of their grandchild if the parents were really that drunk?

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Tenness · 06/09/2019 18:49

surely they would have had concerns about the safety of their grandchild if the parents were really that drunk?

That's what I thought, then thought maybe they were pissed too. Or maybe it's being exaggerated because he thought I'd think it was a laugh.

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BogglesGoggles · 06/09/2019 18:51

The British have a very weird attitude towards drinking though. It’s very normalised in this country.

chamenanged · 06/09/2019 19:43

I'm not a parent, don't know any young kids (except this one), never looked after a kid, she's my only friend who has a kid and there's no kids in my family.

And yet here we are

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Tenness · 06/09/2019 19:46

And yet here we are

Eh?

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bloodywhitecat · 06/09/2019 19:49

Please tell me they didn't drive in that state?

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Tenness · 06/09/2019 19:50

Please tell me they didn't drive in that state?

Oh no! They wouldn't do that. They walked.

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WhatsMyPassword · 06/09/2019 19:52

Do you think she was exaggerating for effect?

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Tenness · 06/09/2019 19:55

It was her husband who told me, so maybe. It really doesn't sound like her.

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funnylittlefloozie · 06/09/2019 20:55

Oh please, enough with the disingenousness. Of COURSE its not acceptable or excusable - your friend and her partner are a pair of pitiful twats if this is really what happened. If it didnt happen, and they're making it up for shits and giggles, they need to grow up sharpish... as do you.

If there are no kids in your family, how did you get here?

TartanCurtains1 · 06/09/2019 22:21

Honestly, if you just want to judge these parents (and rightly so) then you may as well just own it.

But asking "AIBU to think it's not okay to be so pissed you can't remember with a baby you're taking home?"

Just makes you look daft.

Perhaps slightly harsh, but this.

AudacityOfHope · 06/09/2019 22:24

You know, sometimes shit happens. You go round to a friends thinking it will be a chilled night, then someone opens another bottle of wine and you're enjoying yourself and you feel like your old self again and not a boring parent and NOTHING HAPPENED. It ended without incident and they all lived to fight another day.

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Tenness · 06/09/2019 22:52

If there are no kids in your family, how did you get here?

Well a kid is a child. Children grow into adults. There are no children in the family. Can’t see what’s difficult to understand.

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nanbread · 06/09/2019 23:06

Sounds like the DH is exaggerating or maybe he was that pissed but wife wasn't?

I've been pissed in care of (sleeping) DCs. Not pissed enough not to remember getting home admittedly, but definitely a bit merry. Most of my friends have done the same too.

It's quite rare though, as even mild hangovers with young children are horrendous. Usually I just have one or two if I'm drinking.

Btw I think they mean why are you on this site, given its Mumsnet, if you have no kids...

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Tenness · 07/09/2019 14:30

Btw I think they mean why are you on this site, given its Mumsnet, if you have no kids...

I joined when I was pregnant. Although there are many thousands of threads with nothing to do with children so I'm sure there are many women on here who don't have kids.

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