Name changed as this is outing but I would appreciate your advice as I am clouded with anger.
DD collected a friend en route to school every day last year, I am saying this to show she was not a stranger to dog (see below).
In June she was waiting at their house and dog approached her, she slightly bent down to say hello and dog bit her face. Everyone who was there confirmed it was unprovoked, no noise, not in dog's space etc. Injury sustained not huge but she will be scarred on her face for life (I dread to think of it had been her eye).
Mum told me they were having dog put down that day.
Dog was not put down and they told me they were rehoming it. Mum told me she would 'never be able to have children in the house whilst dog there' etc.
Three months later and I saw dog being walked by dad in village without a lead or muzzle.
Last night get text saying they are not rehoming dog and having party on Saturday would DD like to come, dog would be shut away.
I respond to say will dog be locked away where children can't accidentally let out or just in another room.
She has responded to say she cannot guarantee dog wouldn't accidentally be let out.
I am so angry. We were very reasonable at time, didn't call police, thought it was an accident. She has since told me dog nipped another child previously but she didn't count that as it was in his bed and dad has told me that 'dog sometimes growls when I put my hand down but that is normal'.
I feel lied to and I feel they are totally minimising risk of dog. Clearly DD won't be going, but I feel I should point out they should've warned other parents. DH thinks that's too strong.
How would you respond? I have drafted a number of responses, DH says all a bit aggressive (no swearing but pointing out about warning others etc). I just feel I've been taken for a mug at being so reasonable.