To think my DP is being reckless.

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We are on holiday in Turkey and it’s well over 30 degrees. Her 4 year old son doesn’t like wearing his swim suit, so she’s let him swim in trunks. The problem is, even with factor 50 on, after 2 days he’s a little burnt. AIBU to worry and think he should be made to wear the suit?

Yes. She's being incredibly negligent. He could have serious burns.

I'd go above her and put the cream on the child myself.

Rather a pissed off mum than a kid in hospital.

Oh. Hang on. She's putting SPF 50 on him?

As long as she's doing it properly he shouldn't be burnt. Maybe just apply more cream more frequently.

I agree, apply more frequently.

Also, see if he'll wear a t shirt.

I watched something recently that says, do NOT use F50, butvesievualky nit if they’re already a little burnt.

I’m really sorry I can’t renember the technicalities if it or even where I watched it (but it was something reputable!) it apparently has something in it (metals?!) that reflect the sun/heat back into the skin and makes it worse. Get some F30 and try to keep him covered or in the shade.

Try to keep him moving too - you definitely burn less if you’re not lying /sitting in the same position for ages - especially on/around the water

Speak to her tonight about him wearing a T Shirt.

Is he burnt or red? Sone people go red easily.

I can't see how you'd push this without spoiling the holiday, though.

She probably needs to apply the factor 50 more frequently. I would probably also make him wear a t-shirt for swimming as additional protection against the sun's rays, if that is allowed where you are staying (some places don't allow swimming in a t-shirt).

If he refused to comply he would be taken inside.

I don’t make my toddler wear a rash vest when swimming and she’s never burned. It sounds like more frequent sunscream applications (every 2 hours and after swimming) and breaks in the shade, which is important regardless to avoid heatstroke, are needed. I’d just suggest a long lunch away from full sun and reapplying your own sun cream regularly and reminding everyone else to do the same. You can’t force the rash vest/UV suit if his mum isn’t going to.

It depends on what you mean by a little burnt. Is he actually burnt and peeling, or just gone pink or red? If it's the former then I would tell him he can't be in the sun unless he wears his suit, if it's the latter, I'd just keep a watch to see if he's going to tan or go redder and then decide.