I can't wait for the big butt fashion to be over.

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I'm more 'straight up and down', and slightly apple when carrying a few extra pounds, so the current trend for bottom-heavy hourglass figures is totally unobtainable for me.

I'll be glad when it's over, selfishly!

I'll also be glad to see the back of the massive lips with tiny pointy chins.

Aibu to expect the trend to die soon?

I'm saying there shouldn't be any 'fashion fads' to overshadow ANYBODY. Urgh

The tilt of the top lip you get from fillers always looks a bit like a moustache to me. I think it's a pornified dolly sort of look and I'll be glad to see the back of it. It's so unobtainable for most average women without a lot of work.

Big bums is better than celebrating waify anorexic looks. Curvy is definitely more acceptable than it was when I was a younger woman and that's positive I think. Obv bum fillers are ridiculous.

A trend for wobbly tummies would get my vote.

@Siameasy

Amen to all of this!It's also been blogged about by women in the US who write about it with much more perspective than I could as a male.

Unfortunately due to the ludicrousness of the whole setup, their voices are dismissed as "angry Black females" so it doesn't cut through.

The mad thing is how open some famous Black males in the US are about preferring "lighties" (or light-skinned women of African American origin) and how valued they are.

Nothing wrong with having a sexual preference, but then when we look at Iggy Azalea, KK, Kylie J, etc etc...

It's clear where the trend has gone, how the pop culture (which in the mainstream US is basically underpinned by rap and basketball stars) has celebrated and reinforced this.

If anyone fancies having a trendy bigger arse they are welcome to some of mine.
Free to a good home.

The thread started with an OP about wanting to see the back of fashion trends which suit small-waisted, large-hipped women.

Nope. I said the trend for the fakery to achieve that look.

@SachaStark

The OP just replied to you explaining that she was talking about any fashion fads making anyone feel bad.

No one is dismissing your body type.

I hate my natural big bum. I can't imagine why anyone wants one.

I'm 42 and for years have hated my sticky out butt until now!! At last I'm in fashion 😆

I think some people take it too far. A young woman I know has had countless lip fillers. She’s distorted her entire mouth area and looks ridiculous. It baffles me as to why the person who does it hasn’t mentioned anything, money probably. She’s aged herself significantly as well.

It’s depressing.

It sure is depressing when young people are shoving stuff into their bodies willy nilly.

Perhaps we need even tighter controls on it all.

But you didn’t mention fakery once in your OP You said that your figure was “up and down” and you’d be “glad when it’s over”. No mention of fakery to achieve the look at all!

My first response was to outline that, contrarily, I didn’t want the fashion to change.

What on Earth is going on on this thread?!

I'm talking more about the trend in lip fillers and butt lifts etc. Not the naturals!

THIS IS MY POST QUOTED FOR YOU.

I’m a slightly taller than average size 10/12 hourglass and I’m enjoying my renaissance clothing and fashion wise.

I see less instances of bottom implants than I saw people trying to be a size zero back in the day - kids starving themselves worried me more than temporary lip fillers do.

But that’s not your opening post. You can hardly object that my first response was in regards to your original question, which did not in fact relate to “natural” or “unnatural” fashion trends at all.

To be clear for those that are misunderstanding on purpose.

I'm having a pop at all the fillers, BBLs, implants etc that are making women feel like their natural figures are not good enough.

The posts were seconds apart to clear up what I missed out of my first post. Perhaps read more than the first post?

I've never had much of a waist either! Even at size 8. Jeans just don't stay up! Grrrr.

I'm a pear with a 12" difference between my waist and hips. I am thankful that I can now buy jeans that don't gape at the waist.

M and S tends to cater for apples as none of their pencil skirts fit properly and gape at the waist.

It honestly makes me feel a little sick when I hear someone say any specific shape is more or less desirable than another. (honestly - it's a genuine mild visceral reaction). I hate to hear women complaining about having a big bum, or skinny legs, or broad shoulders or big feet or... anything).

I feel the same way. It would be better if we could celebrate all body features and help women feel good about what they have or haven't got. I find it astounding that fashion only caters for one or two body shapes.

There was a thread a while ago about some models looking too 'skinny' and how it was unattractive. Some posters pointed out that it's their natural body type, they look like that no matter how hard they actively try to put on weight, they're perfectly healthy and they felt hurt by people telling them they'd look more attractive if they "just put on some weight".

Interestingly, I've recently lost a bit of weight (through breastfeeding!). My SIL commented "you'd look better if you put a bit of weight on". I didn't take it to heart (although I've clearly remembered it) but in hindsight I did think it was potentially hurtful to pick on physical features like that!. If I said "you'd look better if you lost some weight" to her, I bet she'd think I was being rude!

My heavens, I’m off to wash my hair.

OP, maybe you should consider your arguments more clearly, and outline your opening post to encompass all your points succinctly. Are we discussing a fashion trend or cosmetic surgery or tailoring Instagram accounts to promote unrealistic beauty standards or impressionable teens or vulnerable adults? Because I have no clue anymore. Your original post is merely about fashion trends, and forms the basis of your AIBU question: “AIBU to expect the trend to die soon?”

In response to all of them, in brief, since I’m apparently not allowed to just respond to the original AIBU question:

Fashion Trend: love it, it works to my advantage

Cosmetic surgery: if an adult consents to a surgical procedure, fine by me, it will do no women any good to tell them what they can and can’t do with their bodies. That way, Gilead lies.

Instagram accounts: it’s a shame if Instagram influencers aren’t honest with followers as to how their photos are enhanced by photoshopping/makeup/surgical procedures, but ultimately, it is the responsibility of the Insta user to assess whether following a particular account is a positive move for them. Like I said previously, tailor your account, I personally couldn’t be less bored than by following a load of beauty gurus. As to whether there should be guidelines introduced to moderate this, as there was in the last few years with advertising regulations, I expect we will see a result within the next five or so years.

Impressionable teens: obviously, the social media epidemic (and it really is just that) facing modern teens is dreadful. I should hate to be growing up in it. I hope that parents are monitoring the accounts that their DC follow, and discuss frequently with them about how realistic the accounts are, in order to dispel some of the control that the influencers may have over them.

I have natural big lips .. I cant stand pouting though.

And even when skinny I have a big ass
But I'm not skinny and have a bigger ass and thick thighs

I'm quite liking this phase

OP, maybe you should consider your arguments more clearly, and outline your opening post to encompass all your points succinctly. Are we discussing a fashion trend or cosmetic

Yes I probably should have been more succinct.. but never mind.

As conversations naturally do in the wild, we're now discussing all points mentioned. Not just one. Hope that's not against the law.

I must must must confirm that I do not follow beauty gurus