But you’ll get lots of larger people come on and tell you it’s nonsense and use the example of Arnie being obese according to BMI as an excuse for ignoring it
I am larger, and I don't think it's nonsense, but I do think it's simplistic, and because of that simplistic measure of health, it makes itself easy to dismiss, and as in the case of the OP, masks potential problems.
I'm 5'9". When I was 14st (I'm working my way back there...), I had a 28" waist - far less than half my height. Little abdominal fat (ribs showed when I was on the leaner side, visible abs), and large and powerful leg muscles. Huge boobs. The nurse who measure my BMI laughed it off, because my resting heart rate was 55, blood pressure perfect, and measurements small.
I gained weight for various reasons through my twenties, and part of how it got so bad was that my weight and BMI had ALWAYS been poor indicators of my overall health. If I'd been realistic about other measures of health, I might have acted sooner, or put them first.
I'd like to see an understanding of health that went beyond weight, personally. In fact, a far more rounded one altogether, incorporating mental health (which was by far the biggest factor in my weight gain!). A ten point check list for factors that indicate you need to put your health first.